My boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 years. I'm 24 and he's 28. For some reason my parents don't like him much. I think it's because he doesn't raise his son like they think he should. He tends to let him run wild and I'm the one who has to stop it. She doesn't like that my bf is really shy and he hardly talks when we are over. But when he does he is always polite and nice to them. She thinks that he respects my dad and not her and it hurts her feelings. She also tends to hold grudges over the smallest things and then holds them against him. My mom talks bad about him to me and then she gets mad when I defend him. I've told her to talk to him because I'm tired of being in the middle of their differences. What bothers me the most is that they liked my ex. He used to steal money from my mom's purse, he used to call me names ALL the time, and he even hit occasionally. So why do they like my ex and not my current bf? What can I do to help them have a better relationship?
2006-12-27 20:02:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Request you present bf to be nicer to your mom. Their relationship, I believe, is your main concern. He could start by giving your mom a gift. All the best!
2006-12-27 20:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the fact that your current bf have a son. They might not want you to carry the burden of his son, when you guys are married. I feel that no matter what happens your parents look after you for your best interest. They would want you to be happy and have a bright future.
Regarding the ex bf, maybe they can over sees that because they know that one day you will not take that horrible treatment and dump him...
2006-12-27 20:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore your parents complains. If you didn't mention your previous bf, I’d think it is just because some parents can get jealous over their children, as they want them to stay with them as much as possible.
But it seems you have made a good choice with your current bf and the only reason your mother complains is because she is sort of choosing for you the type of man she would like to have for herself. She should realize that your are not her, your are yourself and she should leave you to be happy with your choice.
Follow your own path in life.
2006-12-27 20:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have to give your mom credit for being mad at him for not taking care of his child very good. i would be especially pissed if my own daughter was taking care of a child that wasnt hers. but if you dont like it, move out, and if you did, then dont go over there as much. demand respect from her and if she doesnt give it to you, take action. my moms kinda like your mom. but moms have a way of seeing through people. my mom never liked any of my boyfriends and i never understood why until i broke up with them. i never told her that she was right and that i should have listened. but thats how we learn in life. i just got engaged and he is the only one my mom really likes and really wants as a son in law. she threatened me and told me not to screw this one up.
2006-12-27 20:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by married1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the gae difference and maybe they are just over protective and want the best for you. some parents are just weird and on't understand their childrens feelings if i was you and u really liked this man u would hit it down hard to ure parents and tell them that u seriously like him. if u like him enough ud ignore ure parents thoughts and just love him.
2006-12-27 20:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Tink* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents think you deserve better. ever notice how on tv show the husbands never get along with the mother inlaw for the stupidest reasons? it like that for real some times
2006-12-27 20:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by lacrishia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Char, they don't trust your judgement...they are thinking one ad choice will lead to another....don't let em mess with your head, they clearly love you and want the best for you but they just don't get it,,,good luck..
2006-12-27 20:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time together. Ask your boyfriend to make more of a effort to open up more.
2006-12-27 20:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they love you and think you deserve better? I don't know if you new bf was any better though.
2006-12-27 20:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Stinky2u4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Charlotte = female dog
2006-12-27 20:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by Robert P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋