Okay, so I've known this girl for a couple of years now and within the last year I have become attracted to her. The whole time I have known her, she has been in a relationship (going on 3 years now...a lot of firsts involved--high school sweethearts etc). However, last year he went away for college for a semester and we became much closer...it was almost as I took on a boyfriend role without being physical at all...going out to eat, movies, etc. Then he came back for the next semester and we hung out less frequently but our conversations still extremely meaningful and deep. Now I am several hours away at a different school, and everytime I come home she is the first person I call and I can tell that her relationship is on the rocks. Everytime I am with her she tells me about what he is doing and I am amazed that she is still holding onto this guy; however, I don't feel like I have enough to work with to express my true love for her. I want to tell her I love her, but I'm scared.
2006-12-27 19:47:48 · 7 answers · asked by Stefano 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She tells me that things that she is attracted to which really describe me, but doesn't necessarily say that she is attracted to me. Then she will say things that she does for her bf that he would not do for her--basically loyalty and things that a friend would do for a friend. I feel like even if she isn't with me she should be with somebody else...I think that she thinks that there isn't anyone else out there and that it is easier to stay in a crappy relationship than to seek someone else, maybe she just needs to know that I'm there...to tell or not to tell?
2006-12-27 19:53:02 · update #1
If I were in your situation, I would continue to be there for her and be her best friend. You will know when the time is right whether or not you want to take it to the next level. You might even strike up a conversation about it and see what her thoughts are on it. Good Luck!
2006-12-27 19:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that she knows that you like her just alittle bit. Doing all those things together you two must have become good friends and learned a lot about each other. I don't think that when her relationship is not doing so well is a good time to tell her that you love her and how much she means to you. Although you can express how much you care about her and stuff like that. Meanings it is high school sweethearts, it will be a difficult situation when and if they do break up. Just be there for her and let he calm down and sort of sort things through and then tell her how you feel.
2006-12-28 03:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Renee B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her relationship take its course. Injecting your feelings into the mix will only make whatever decisions she has to make that much harder. If you find it too tough to hold in, I suppose you could let her know how you feel. (From personal experience being in her shoes....it does make a tough situtation even more complicated). I hope things work out for you!
2006-12-28 03:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by ArrestingDistraction 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would just be there for her until she figured out he wasn't for her. Girls know that a guy cares when he is there for them.
2006-12-28 03:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by enigmagirl5_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey jake there is a guy named town who would enjoy meeting with u right now . wheere you at I ll bring him to you.
2006-12-28 03:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
MAYBE SHES NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP,& did't u say u loved her? HOW do u luv her?
2006-12-28 03:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHOOSE FRIENDSHIP OR REALATIONSHIP? THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT THE CHOICE U MAKE
2006-12-28 03:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋