how do u deal with losing someone u never had?

Question

theres this guy i met about 2 weeks ago. he's really great. but he came to cali (where i live) only for x-mas nd now he's back in texas (where he lives). i feel really bad, considering we probably wont ever see each other again. we never went out or anything, we just talked and we really clicked, like we understood each other.
we still talk online, but not as much, since we dont get a lot of time. so we're basically drifting apart. the thing i dont get is why do i feel so depressed and why do i feel almost jealous when i see him with other girls in pics considering that we never went out?
this is driving me crazy, so if anyone could help me get over this annoying feeling it would be appreciated.

no i do not love him

by the way, hes 19, im 18.
theres no way of leaving our home, school, and family to be together. that would be stupid nd crazy

Answer 1

Since you know you wont see him again you might be wise to stay away from him online, including any web sites he has. Think about what qualities he had that you liked and then start looking for those qualities in guys you meet where you live. If you keep hanging around him online you will only make yourself suffer.

Answer 2

A few years ago, I met a guy who came into my town for a baseball tournament that goes on every year here. We hung out only 2 days and like 2 hours each day, but I still really liked him for some reason. Then he had to go back home, which is about 8 hours away from here. He'd call me for the first few days, but then we pretty much stopped talking. We got back in touch like a year later when I knew he was going to come back again and I did see him one more time. But then he stopped calling again and I realized that it wasn't worth it at all. The best thing to do is find someone that lives by you. I'm not saying that long distance relationships don't work, but something like the situation you're in doesn't seem like it's going to work out. Don't let yourself get hurt.

Answer 3

These are normal feelings in this age. You cannot do anything in this respect. If you don’t love the guy then you should not feel jealous when you see him with other girls. It might be an attraction. You have to overcome it. Just try to indulge in various other tasks. I am not saying do not chat with him or something like that. You do not have to think of him or should not daydream which may happen. Try to concentrate on other activities like reading, hanging out with friends, studying, and working, etc. you can join a hobby class. If you know for sure that you are not going to meet him again then you have to stop thinking of him. This phase will get over soon. You will come out of this as soon as you will get his thoughts out of your mind.

Answer 4

When you have a Connection with someone, you're going to feel things like that in that situation

Connections aren't really that easy to find, not good one's anyway... What you are feeling is normal, and only time will help you move on

If you guys aren't going to pursue anything together, than I wouldn't focus much of your time on it...

But pain will come when you've connected with someone, even if it was short... It's not so much about the person, but the connection

The good news is you have the ability to conncect with someone, good luck connecting with someone more local next time... Just feel what you need to feel, but don't let it drive you crazy... It's normal to feel loss

Answer 5

It sounds like you feel rejected when you really weren't because you never were involved with the fella. Any loss of anything, even an online relationship or even just giving up on a crush because you now want the real thing can be as painful as a breakup; just accept you feeling and work through them until you are ready to date again.

Answer 6

i know the feeling, people will tell u get over it. Its not true you will never get over it. Follow your heart get in touch with him, you had a good thing going. Dont let things like pics with other girls put u off. You never know you could be driving him crazy, just go ring him the only way u gonna find your true feelings.

Answer 7

You always put the one you lose in a pedestal. You never get to see their real self and the annoying things they do or how they would leave dirty clothes all over the bathroom floor. The ones that you do get to know will never live up to this fantasy guy.

Answer 8

Christmas was only a few days ago and youre already feeling jealousy? that's a very negative and destructive emotion and you dont even know the guy. umm...take it easy and enjoy the rest of the holidays, ok? ::)

Answer 9

wow...thats my life right there.. haha ya i TOTALY understand this.. but ya i try to learn that as soon as i start to like someone. jsut try to forget about them right then and there. cause i cant talk to anyone im waaaayyy to shy.. and i only have 1 good friend and iv been like this since i was born so ya im probly the most lonely person on the planet. but if i ever even get close to anything it drifts.. slowly and painfully. so i guess jsut try and do wat i do.. it sometimes works..

and listen to "on my own" by "the used" its like this a lot.


U ROCK!!!

Answer 10

i really don't believe in love at first sight. it's bothering you because you are allowing it to bother you. stop thinking about him. do something else. i'm very sure you have lots of things to do aside from thinking of him. it's not wrong to like somebody. but to feel that way about him after seeing him only once....there is something wrong here.