I recently stopped seeing a guy because he hadn't developed feeling for me in the time we were together, which was 1 month. I told himI like to think people get together for a reason, like there's a greater purpose. I don't like I'm the "fling" type of girl. He told me I needed to drop this way of thinking, that someone is going to sweep me off my feet. Am I completely out of touch with reality?
2006-12-27 19:18:06 · 10 answers · asked by gopats_54 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's okay to be fickle, but there is a limit. Don't go searching for perfection. It's good that you're searching for love instead of just "flings", but then there's a certain point you have to stop searching for Prince Charming.
Perfection doesn't exist, and if you keep looking for it, you're going to be disappointed your whole life. Love will take you by surprise, so I suggest you don't drop guys immediately if they have flaws. You might learn to love someone despite all of those flaws. And that'll be like your fairy tale.
2006-12-27 19:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice to have a dream but other people do not dream the way you do. You might wait for someone with a similar dream and drop them as you go but you will constantly be disappointed. You cannot expect other people to know how you need to be loved or put a time limit on it. That is unreasonable expectation and if you do not change your way of thinking you will always be disappointed.
This guy you were with for a month could have been a wonderful person to be around but because he did not love you the way you want to be loved you broke up with him. Imagine if someone you really cared for did that to you. Someone whom you thought fit your image of your dream. If he broke up with you after a month and said you were not what he wanted then what would you do? You see just because he was what your dream required does not mean you fit his, so be more lenient and have less unreal expectations and you will be disappointed less.
2006-12-27 19:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, then you wouldn't have a life. It is okay to hope for a man that will sweep you off your feet, but wish and not at least make the slightest effort then you would be doing nothing but living in a fairy tale that will never come true.
2006-12-27 19:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Stinky2u4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your needs were not being met in the relationship, that is a good reason for ending it. Guys say a lot of things when their ego is bruised and they want to save face. He said himself that someone is going to sweep you off your feet, and someday, they will...it just obvioiusly was not him!
2006-12-27 19:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your feelings when it comes to love. The feelings must be mutual for a relationship to blossom. I do not think you are completely out of touch with reality if you are just seeking for someone to love you.
2006-12-27 19:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of touch with reality? aren't we all???
if you were together for a whole month and nothin "developed", ummmmmmmmmm whatever that means....and you stopped seein this guy, well then kudos to you, but may I ask were ya fukkin him?
cuz let's face it...if you're seriously waiting for prince charming then stop spending your cash along the way.......
2006-12-27 19:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a little more reserved(no stress) .Down the road you may even have aone night stand + enjoy it very much. You may even remember it a lifetime
2006-12-27 19:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh.. well .. in reality. nothing really happens for a reason everything haveing to do with love is gona end up in tears.. so ya..
but i like to beleive i could haev a girlfriend anyways! haha
2006-12-27 19:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
competely and totally....go on a trampage and make some guys happy
2006-12-27 19:22:13 · answer #9 · answered by taterhog mung-flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it beats living in the real world.
2006-12-27 19:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋