I've always had a hard time when it comes to just leaving the females alone and let them call me sometimes. I wait for a few days and I call them back, which I know is the wrong thing to do because females see that as desperate. Truth is I am Desperate! It's hard to occupy my mind on something else to pass the time to not call them back. Plus, I always want to know what's the reason you never called back. I personally hate when a female never calls me back again. Any solution to this problem?
2006-12-27 19:17:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is rather simple - as human beings one of our most basic and important needs is being accepted by others. We tend to view 'rejection' as a total failure of who and what we are!
It is not desperate at all - just you being human. I recommend that you try to sort out who and what you are in life, determine your self worth and don't take 'female rejection' so hard - if you don't hear from them, MOVE ON till you find the one that calls back.
2006-12-27 19:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by jmk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think JMK saids it the best. It is true that humans do fear rejection. Perhaps that is why you are obsessed with whether a girl calls back or not. When they don't, it almost seem as if it confirms your own self belief that you are not worthy of their time. I may be wrong but you will want to take a harder look at your own self concept...meaning how you view yourself and how much you think you can offer the opposite sex.
When someone don't call back, it is highly likely that the person is not really interested. Often times, people are attracted to those who portray a good self esteem and confidence. Your desperation may send the wrong signal to others that may be a turn off.
In the scheme of dating, it is like business. You are advertising a product you want to sell which is you. Your target audience is women. The question you must then ask yourself is what do women want? You have to appeal to your target "consumer" if you want to sell your "stuff". Women generally like a man who is confident, assertive, successful, nice looking (don't have to be fabio), and sensitive. In order for them to get to see that, you have to put yourself out there by what women see as their first impression of you. Don't try too hard, don't look nervous.
Lastly, it is very awkward to meet someone on a whim and just exchange numbers. Why don't you try becoming a friend first by casual means through some organization you two have in common whether it be work, school, or church related. Usually people have more of a success meeting casually then by going through the whole dating with a stranger scenario.
2006-12-27 20:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay bro i m a guy and hear the sloution 2 the problem every one is attracted towards which they think is out of reach so show some attitude to the girls never call them back and belevie me it works just stay cool ;)
2006-12-27 19:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by nabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are suppose to call her, at least for the first couple of meetings. she feels rejected if you don't. why don't you end the conversations with "I'll call you later okay" if she says "alright call me" then there is nothing for you to worry about and you can call her anytime without wondering should I or shouldn't I.
2006-12-27 19:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by michael H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply because you're being challenged and you seem to think that they did not call you back because they like you less.
2006-12-27 19:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Marge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just freakin call her. she wants to hear from you too.
2006-12-27 19:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just cant take no for an answer.
2006-12-27 19:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HATE THAT TOO. SH1T HAPPENS THOUGH JUST MOVE ON FROM THERE.
2006-12-27 19:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by fine_ass_fatty21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋