My boyfriend and i have started talking about having sex.
I am ready for it...and i want to do it.
But he is really big and i'm only really small.
So i'm scared that he is going to rip me open and i'll need stitches!!! PLZ HELP....Thanks
2006-12-27 19:10:58 · 24 answers · asked by Bootsy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont worry, it's a known fact that guys bigger than 9 inches cant keep a blood supply going and dont stay hard for long. He wont be in there very long. They say the perfect size is about 8 inches so go look for a guy who is between 6-8 inches.
2006-12-27 19:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Questions like this always make me laugh....not at just you, my dear, but the nature of it. You would be SUPRISED at what will fit and what will not. Tampons seem like an impossibility when you start your period...but think about how big a baby's head is too. The vagina is more elastic than you relize, it can take more than you think it can.
BUT if you're really that worried, a LOT of lubricant (KY jelly is a good one) may be an order...have him wear a condom not just for the obvious reasons, but it will actually help with traction issues and "easing it into there". If your fears are correct and you are sore afterwards, take a warm to warm-hot bath with NO SOAP (that will just aggravate your sensitive and now tender tissue) and just relax for a while in it with the legs open.
2006-12-28 03:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by Detroit Diva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmmmmmmm.........Don't you think that actually means that you're not actually really ready for the intimacy (closeness) and newness of experiencing sex for the first time? Perhaps you could just assure your boyfriend how much you really love him and just explain that you really don't feel comfortable to take the extra step of actually making love? Just be honest with him. You'll feel so much better about the whole thing. If he truly cares about you, believe me, he will be very understanding and kind. If gets angry with you and threatens to split up with you or go find someone who will give up the goods kick his sorry butt to the kerb!! You would be amazed at what a man will actually put up with in terms of worry and stress if he truly, madly, deeply loves you.
I mean lets face it, you don't really believe that your boyfriend would be so rough as to tear you open do you? The only way that could happen is if he was really rough and forcefull and ignored your screams of pain and pleading for him to stop and just forced himself on you, don't you think?
Know wot u have 2 do now? Go look in the mirror at yourself and take note of your best attributes (the part of you that you like the most).........then smile :)........you're a pretty good catch aren't you....sooooooooooooo......be brave, be confident girl, he does love ya........believe it.......don't do anything you don't want to just yet........make him wait.........stop stressing, do it now. Besides the more you stress, the quicker you'll age!!!! Sorry I do babble a bit, hope I helped a bit.....please let me know how you went??
2006-12-28 03:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by Minx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every girl feels pain when they have sex for the first time. Dont be scared. When ur going to do it for the first time, dont let him in too soon. Ask him to fondle u untill u get very wet. Ask him to do it slowly. Dont worry u wont need stitches. Only a little bleeding will occur. If he damages inside u, u will just need to take some medicine and u will be fine.
2006-12-28 03:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by mermaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not have to worry too much. Many people think a big guy must have a big penis. No, it not always true. Second, you could tell him to be gentle. Third, you can always stop him if you feel the danger (I mean if he cares about you, he will stop). I really wish you enjoy your sex instead of worry.
2006-12-28 03:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How big is really big? Is it like, 8 inches or 10, or is it more of a width thing?
Also, for your first time, I'd suggest you being on top - that way you can control how much pain you're in, and if it gets to be too much, you can stop.
2006-12-28 03:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by supensa 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No it is not going to be bad! Sex hurts at first but not for long. You'll be fine and won't need stitches! n
2006-12-28 03:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going into a wrestling tournament. Just lie there and giggle.
2006-12-28 03:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by Doctor Duffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're that scared DON'T DO IT. There is no point in being that afraid. I think you're just not ready.
2006-12-28 03:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depend if u had sex befor if not u need 2read about it and find out more about it if u did have sex befor dat mean u don't trust him and belive me it all about trust if u don't trust him u can't have sex with him and u can talk to him and tell him wat scarre's u cuz u2 were talking about sex so he should know wat r u scarred of and all b fine , if u need any he or if u think i helped u plz wright me dat on mz_taha@yahoo.com
2006-12-28 03:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by mohame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋