Is there something wrong with a guy who has never had a girlfriend and isn't gay?

Question

guy=me 18years old
i know i like girls, =)
never had a relationship...... ever, i know it isnt bashfullness since im pretty outgoing
im i nice guy, get along with everyone, about to finish high school
so im just curious about it, im in a class with almost all girls in school, friend vibe from all of them, even the ones i dont have in classes.
the whole relationship thing has never happend for me, am i just a
late bloomer or is there somthing wrong with me??
(and no im not fat or anything like that)
any advice would be great

Answer 1

You are sooo young yet. It just happens. And it will happen soon enough. You could be like me. 41 years old, never married. My brother had a stroke and needs 24/7 care. Didn't want to see him rot in a nursing home. So I took him home and I take care of him. Not many chances to meet women. And when I do, they show no interest in living with a disabled family member. Life's a b itch.


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Answer 2

Something wrong? I don't think so. I mean I'm nineteen and I still haven't had a real boyfriend nor a "real" first kiss. ( I got kissed when I was eight by some boy who was not related to me but I'm not counting that).

I'm also really outgoing and I've had guys tell me they like me, problem is, I seem to be a magnet for inaccessible guys. One guy said he was in love with me but that we could never be together because of "differences". So until I find someone who doesn't think up excuses just to get out of a relationship that is getting serious....yes I guess you could say we are both late bloomers.

The "relationship thing" as you call it, has never happened to me because it is always one-sided and probably because the relationship was ended before it began.

I always kind of wondered whether I was ugly or undateable...but seriously that is the most absurd thing to even consider and why the hell am I feeling sorry for myself. It won't do good for anybody.

I may be likeable just not doable.

Time will tell. We are both young, maybe we should take other people's advice and just don't worry about it and have fun. At least, that's what I'm going to try to do. Life's there. We should just live it.

~ Callie

Answer 3

Give yourself a break, you are only 18. I dated all sorts of women when I was young and when I reached high school I didn't get hung up on one women for too long. I didn't want commitment at a young age, perhaps your mind set is similar. I can recall one girl that I could have had at 16 and I stalled and backed out, I also recall another at 17 which was only looking for sex. When I think back I probably should have drilled the one at 17 but it was a weird situation. I ended up staying a virgin much longer than I expected. Really it doesn't matter now and I didn't catch any diseases. I am just trying to offer you some advice. I know the world is different these days, everything in right now, which isn't always good. When you look at the big picture sex isn't as important as it seems.

Answer 4

I'm 23 and just got into a relationship in April with a guy my age who had never had a girlfriend before. He was raised in a very Christian family where dating was discouraged, so that had a lot to do with it, but I think it's totally ok that it takes some people a while to get into all that. Who says you have to, anyway? Maybe you're more interested in school right now, or you want a quality of connection that just hasn't been available to you yet. Who knows. All that matters is that you stay true to your feelings and do what's natural for you. When you find the right girl, you'll know.

Answer 5

Honestly, I think you might be one of the few guys who's looking for that perfect person.

Now, I'm not one of those women who's going to rant about all guys being pigs, but how men and women approach relationships is definitely different. Men ask a lot of girls out almost like they're "test driving" us (and no, I don't mean sex!). A lot of guys will date and date and date until "Ah-huh!" he's found the right one. Not to mention, guys tend to get teased more by their buddies if they're not dating, so having a girl on your arm is okay.

Girls on the other hand, worried about being called a slut, tend to date less and for longer periods of time. Thus the "clingy girl" syndrome.

But, occasionally, the roles get switched. I think you're just one of the guys who's more content sitting back and waiting for the right one to come to you rather than wasting your time searching through the herd. It could be a sign of trust issues (worried that someone may hurt you), but you seem pretty confident so...

All I've got to say is that it's better to date a friend than that object of lust. All those girls you got the friend vibe off of are going to come to you to get advise on guys, which is your chance to make a move! Good luck! ^.~

Answer 6

At 18 I think it's perfectly normal to never have had a girlfriend. You said that you're pretty outgoing...please don't be offended if I encourage you to reflect on the possibility of your extroversion coming across as immature, I remember thinking this of lots of the guys when I was in high school. Good luck!

Answer 7

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You must be a very sincere young man. One who has a conscience about sex and relationships. Your sub conscience is waiting for the right girl, one you feel comfortable enough with to exchange a few wet kisses... teehee

I would say you are articulate and perhaps particular in whom you may want to spend your time, feelings and moneys with.

Remember, dating is what you do to try peoples personalities on for size.. to see if you click with someone. So don't be afraid to ask someone out on a date or to meet somewhere for a chocolate milk.. (smiles)
GOOD LUCK TO YOU... (she will appear when you least expect it to happen)

Answer 8

Same situation here ...im almost 18 ,in grade 12 and no gf so far ! the problem is that i cant flirt with girls maybe im shy or cuz English is my 2nd language...it's said im handsome and cute but... but i think this way to convince myself :
im a Man and dont need a girl Right now cuz im doin very well in school (girls are just troubles :D )...im not gonna push it cuz ill find a good one soon...this is the way it is , if im not satisfied change it ...(if i can)...it's said there is always someone for you but u need to find it ! that's a good one ! if u like a girl , respect her , treat her right and flirt with her and then ask her out , if she says no then say to urslef :" she said no??? who gives a sh*t??? loool...there are so many girls out there, :D...Confidence is very good , i love it ...
dont worry dear...u will get wut u want if u really want !
good luck !

Answer 9

there is nothing wrong with that its fine
you see allot of people caught up in the dating game
oh john oh marsha
can be sickening
there is nothing wrong with not dating
so you are not in the dating game
does that bother you?
im your age
i do not date either
i have had offers
thought about it
but im not really into dating tis all
do what you are comfortable with
ask yourself "does it bother me that im not dating?"
go from there
if you want to date go for it
if you are happy and comfortable with the way things are now
then i wouldnt see a reason to change that

Answer 10

Maybe because you're too playful. Maybe your not serious enough for any of the girls to take you seriously. Pick a girl that you like and start flirting or showing her a side of you that she has never seen before.