Okay, I was raised as a christian. But I lost my faith when I reached highschool and declared myself as agnostic until I was 18. During those years my parents got divorced and my mother remarried. When I became agnostic my mother and stepfather agreed with my beliefs and followed the faithless path. A year after graduation I re-dedicated my life to Christ. There is no question I havent had answered and my faith has returned. I have given myself completely to God. The only problem I have yet to face is my parents. They are very negative about religion and when someone says they are religous my family will call them "stupid", "brainwashed", or "misguided". The thing is I completely understand and can relate to this type of thinking although I no longer feel that way. I have to lie about where I am going when I go to church, and this whole thing is killing me. Ive prayed to God about it but I dont know when the right time is to tell them about my faith. I cant live in secrecy anymore
2006-12-27 18:58:55 · 13 answers · asked by Emmeline 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you truly believe,and your faith is strong,you MUST stop lying about your change in faith,about attending church,and all the rest. That denies your belief in God,and says you think other people are more important in your life. If you tell the truth and your family turn against you,remember that God will be there for you,and we are never tested beyond our ability to bare even if it seems like it to us at times. Who knows,you might be chosen to bring your family back to God! Follow your heart, and God be with you.
2006-12-27 19:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by jhetara 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a place now where you must be strong and gentle; strong in your faith and beliefs and gentle in the way you awaken your family to a change that is taking place within you. You will not be living in secrecy forever, but be careful and patient to find the right moments to introduce small hints and thoughts to them that will prepare them for the truth, for through you they will begin to see light as well one day. Do not feel that you must reveal everything all at once, because it may not work out that way. Be patient, for some things take time. On the other hand, you may find that the opportunity arises for you to introduce your point of view much faster, and so you will know what to do if this happens. It helps to remember that God is in control and He will show you the way through this situation.
2006-12-28 05:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a grown woman and I don't understand why you would have to lie to tell your parents where you are going and why you are going there. If they feel the way they do about it, it's their great loss and all you can do is tell them about it. If they refuse to hear about Jesus and God Almighty, leave them alone in this subject. They are old enough to make their own choices just like you. It's sad to hear they are that way but all you can do is keep trying if you can. If you can't, it's not as though you didn't try and the Lord knows that. Pray for them and let them know you are praying for them. Unfortunately, a serious illness usually turns the thought process around. There are no atheist in foxholes. That is a fact. When everything is going fairly well, they don't want to restrict their lifestyle. It all has a habit of changing. Hang in there. I will pray for you and your parents. God Bless.
2006-12-28 03:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No need to hide your faith on Jesus to any one. Openly you can tell them your faith or show them by your actions and words . Do not allow any one even your parents to talk ill of God. Pray for them. If you are a witness in this world God will witness you in the Heaven. Tell them God loves them as they love you . Prayer will do miracles. Be bold and cheerful. No need to feel sad or bad about this. You have a fine chance to prove before God and your parents. If you stand for God God will stand for you!
2006-12-28 03:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bharathi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emmeline,
What wonderful news that you have returned to your surety of the truth of the gospel. I suggest that you reach out for help from someone in your church - whether a woman or the pastor, or someone your age - you need people to walk beside you through this difficult time and that is what Christ's body (the Church) is for.
They will be able to learn some of the details of your situation and help you in a more informed manner.
2006-12-28 03:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by JML 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
while your faith is invigorated again, GOD BLESS, btw,
the church you attend is not necessarily the true faith even it declares itself to be bible based.
I had the same kind of experience, I never told my family i was going to church when i began going. I dont think anyone knew, but I never had to "LIE" about where i was going either.
ive been to a lot of crazy churches, and i guarantee you they all exist in many forms and in many lies themselves.
if you are older than 18 you are considered an adult and you have the RIGHT to profess your beliefs and are even obligated to open your mouth and testify of the gospel of christ. but you are NOT obligated to teach anything that is contrary to the spirit of God.
The decisions are yours to make. BTW I have not seen my Athiest mother for nearly 20 years now, since I recognized that in her house was witchcraft and sorcery and that my brother worshipped satan.
2006-12-28 03:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are living in your own secret. Be honest no matter what. If you lie to your parents or anyone, you lie to your self, and when you lie to your self, you might as well be lying to God. Do not lie. You can be discreet without having to lie. With God's help, you can overcome this. Remember to pray about this. And most of all, be patient. Trust in God and you'll do fine. Bless you.
2006-12-28 03:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by what it is 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the Holy Spirit. when Jesus left, He sent the great Comforter; the Holy Spirit. Ask Him to soften the hearts of your parents and for as long as He will lead you, keep covering your parents and your place of dwelling, under the protective, authoritative, redemptive and delivering blood of Jesus. The Holy Spirit will then impress upon your heart, when you should tell and how you should tell. Get into conversation with Him on a daily basis. He's the best there is for advise.
2006-12-28 03:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nats 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not a christian, but advice is still good. It's a good thing its your life and not theirs. Stop worring about what they will think, if they think your stupid let them, at least you will not have to keep secret what you don't want to be a secret. If your god is real and good. Is it not a sin in your faith to lie? If you truly believe in your god then do as it asks of you.
2006-12-28 03:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Magus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it will be hard to face them.I think the best thing you could do is to just tell them,and be a witness for Christ in your life.Ignore them if they say you are brainwashed or stupid, because responding in anger is only fuelling the fire.
I'll be praying for you.
2006-12-28 03:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by Serena 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋