ive only had one bf and that was 10 months ago and he was super jerky and ugly. everyone tells me im hot, but i just want a relationship not.... a one night stand. what should i do????
2006-12-27 18:24:15 · 23 answers · asked by jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lose the attitude. Not all guys necessarily want to date girls who dump them for being ugly.
2006-12-27 18:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anita 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some guys may think that since you are good looking, you can have your pick of any guy, so why would you want him?
They could also be thinking that you're too hot, and they don't want a woman they have to be suspicious about all the time with other men.
It all boils down to insecurity. When you see guys you like, you have to make it obvious that you are nice, and approachable-that you will not reject him if he makes a move to talk to you.
Get some objective advice from some fellow outsiders (not your friends, they're biased!) about what kind of vibe you send off to people. In this situation, it doesn't matter how hot you are; if you are not approachable, most guys won't even bother.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 18:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by dkuddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question really leaves me perplexed!
If you are endowed with all the qualities you mentioned - I would forgive a priest for trying to ask you out! In other words, I think it would be hard to find a guy who would not find you attractive!
In my own opinion, guys are easy to please. When it comes to attraction, it doesn't take much to get us attracted.
Maybe you've been hanging out with the wrong crowd.
The good news is - you can, with your attractive looks - at least get past 'stage one', which is, being attractive. Even if it is just visual attraction, at least it is the first step.
All I can recommend is - go to places you are comfortable with, only attract when you want to (and don’t waste effort trying too hard); and be attractive but respectable.
Not every guy can be right for you. Everybody has a different personality. Everybody needs a different kind of mate. If a guy is right for you, you would know when it happens.
Good luck.
2006-12-27 18:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo user 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys all have different veiws on beauty. So yeah, In the game of love, beauty expectations are SO unreliable. As long as you think you're beautiful, that's all the really matters. Don't go for the "stereotype".
Anywho! You're not focused on the right target! Love is like one of those things that... well... ok here, let me say this:
If your'e looking for romance, and that is your prime target, you will NEVER find it. You need to live life! You need to care for those around you. Improve your self! Take joy in life, and let others around you experience it also!
Hey, everyone says you've got the beauty part down pat. What you really need to do is show people who you are.
If you're looking for a kind guy who's fun to be with and who looks good and cares for others, try being that yourself! What you are is who you'll attract.
2006-12-27 18:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats great if your pretty, but most of the times guys get intimidated by pretty girls and they get scared to approach a girl for the fear of rejection. Try not to hold your standards too high for guys, if you go out with your friends trust me youll notice the attention and maybe one guy will catch your eye. Sometimes if you go out with a guy (like a friend) to the mall or anywhere usually other guys will stare more because some people like what they cant have like other guys might think that you are together with him its funny actually ..you should try it ..good luck and hope you find a good guy!
2006-12-27 18:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by abella_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanna tell us the rest of the story? I mean seriously. I hear stories of girls getting harrasses all the time guys they met online. I have a friend that is the classic Miss Congeniality and she has to be careful. So if you are all that how could you possibly not be able to land a date or even a few hundred dates. I mean you're apparently willing to go online to look. 2+2 isn't adding up to 4 here.
2006-12-27 18:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find friendships first in areas where you might meet someone that would consider a date after meeting you. I don't know your social life but, for example, got on a bowling league where you meet people, bars are often more the meeting places of one night stands but perhaps a concert or floor show at a night club. If you are active in a church of some nature see what activities they may offer tomeet people also.
2006-12-27 18:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 02:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are over confident. i am a blonde big built girl with blue eyes and strait teeth. and i have never worried about how i looked or how tight of clothes to wear. or any of that you should just let the relationship come to you. you can not expect to be in a relationship all the time. becuause u would be moving to fast.
2006-12-27 18:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by ulamciadilaucurats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a similiar thing with that too. I am similiar to u probably and can go out and guys will not talk to me...it is really strange. So i started reading books about flirting, but haven't gone out to see if those things make me any more approachable...good luck...u may have to be the initiator
2006-12-27 18:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you come across as being stuck yourself, and dumping a guy for being ugly isn't winning you any points, kinda makes me think the first part of my answer is right.
2006-12-27 18:32:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋