Hey Guys...I have a problem.I had been in love with someone for almost 3 yrs now.I absolutely adore this person.This person is quite stable and reliable.This person stays on mind all day long even if out of my sight.I can do anything for this one person...But i don't feel sexually attracted to this person.Just like an year back i had meet this other person..who is commitment phobic/Unnreliable blah blah blah.But I am very much attracted to the second person,when this person is around.I HAVE NOT DONE ANYTHING WITH EITHER OF THEM.is something wrong with me?Who is right for me?
2006-12-27 18:09:23 · 11 answers · asked by Blessed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've seen this, possibly even felt this before. But as it stands, you haven't "done anything" with either so experiment and then you'll know if you are compatible sexually.
2006-12-27 18:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Metro 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First there is usually a physical attraction know as lust . after that if the two people stay together then feeling other than sexual ones begin to attract one another those are known as love . As for a good relationship , I personally feel that making love on a regular basis , doesn't have to be a nightly thing but often anyway , that's something that helps keep the relationship fresh instead of it getting boring and eventually ending up in a break up .
2016-03-13 22:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In essence yes love can exist without lust. Think of this way any questions your body has about someone your mind and heart already know the answer to. You have to find a man that will challenge you spitrually first, then mentally, then emotionally and fiannly physically.
2006-12-27 18:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Busgy Lanksy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can love someone without being attracted to them sexually. You can care about them deeply as a person. But that doesn't mean you need to be in a relationship with them, because that's pretty much leading them on. What if you found out your significant other wasn't attracted to YOU? It'd hurt your feelings. Basically, this other stable, reliable person deserves to be with someone who is attracted to them....just like you deserve to be with someone whom you are attracted to. However, this other person you mentioned doesn't seem to want to be in a relationship. So it is also possible to have lust without love. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, but maybe neither of these people are The Right One...though either could be your Right Now...depending on if you want the stability or the attraction, whichever is more important to you right now.
2006-12-27 18:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by grayhare 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will always be sexually attracted to other people. No sexual attraction at all is a bad sign though, I have found that loving someone in a romantic, non-lustful way eventually gets pretty sexy, are there moments? Unstable people do not make good partners for those whom do not appreciate or desire it. Sounds like you have two good friends to keep you company.
2006-12-27 18:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Yai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't mention how the first person feels about you, or the second either for that matter, but you need the best qualities of both of them. Sex is not something that is turned on and off and retains any real value for more than the moment but if you really love someone as more than a friend, the sexual desire will surface at the right moment.
2006-12-27 18:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, fatherly love, motherly love, brotherly love, sisterly love and so on. I believe there is nothing wrong with you. With regards to "Who is right for me?", I say you should go with your heart. However, do remember that it takes two to have a relationship, ie. the feeling must be mutual.
2006-12-27 18:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooo how very bridget jones of you.
i would personally go with the first guy, at least he is reliable. and he won't hurt you.
anyhow, these 2 do not have to be the be all and end all men for you. there are plenty of other people out there.
2006-12-27 18:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Amelia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE FIRST PERSON IS A FRIEND... THE SECOND CAN BECOME A LOVER. LOVE WITHOUT LUST IS FRIENDSHIP.
2006-12-27 18:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by prettyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither, obviously. You need someone that is the best of both of these people. Someone you love and someone that excites you sexually.
2006-12-27 18:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋