How would you feel? What would you do??

Question

Think back to when u were a little child the last memory u can remember. Ok lets say then your mother has done things to hurt you. Up until when you were young keep saying your fat. how would you feel if she hide you from co-workers. if when you go out for her to say she was embarrased of walking with u because of your pimples? How would you feel? Would you have low self esteem or would you not listen to her, But remember you were young lik 8.

Answer 1

Now I understand why you say you hate your mom in the other question. It's awful what she said and did. There's no excuse for it. She is your parent. She is the one who raised you and taught you eating habits and grooming habits. If she thinks or thought there was a problem(and I'm NOT saying there was), but if she thinks so, then she should have been trying to help you to deal with it. She should have been helping you to learn new eating habits and exercise habits. She's the one you learned the old ones from!!! And as far as pimples go...please...I work with kids all the time and I've yet to see one that's never had a pimple in their life. I still get pimples and I'm 34. I would suggest that you sit down with your mom and tell her you want her to pick you up some really good facial cleanser at the drug store - use it every day - follow the directions. Then tell her you want to change your life. You want to feel good about yourself. You want to eat better, exercise more, and feel better about yourself. Tell her what you would like her to help you with. You can do it!

Answer 2

They say children can be cruel -- well, so can adults. Some people might actually try to come up with a lame explanation as to why they were so abusive. There is absolutely no excuse for your mother to have abused you in that way. You were just a baby who didn't have the maturity or capability of protecting yourself. Children look to their parents for protection. But when the parent is the abuser, they have no one. You ask "How would I feel?" and "What would I do?". I would feel betrayed and angry. But I would STOP the abuse immediately. By that, I mean I think you should confront your mother and tell her you feel betrayed and angry. Tell her how it affected your life. Tell her you will no longer allow her to emotionally abuse you and if she wants to be a part of your life, she needs to recognize and admit to how she treated you. Never allow her to treat your children the same way. If you are having low-self esteem problems as an adult because of this emotional abuse, seek some counseling. They will teach you ways to get through it. Whatever you do, don't abuse your children in the same way. And don't allow others to abuse your children (especially their grandma). Good luck sweetie! Remember, you were just a kid. None of it was your fault. None of it!

Answer 3

I can't tell how old you are now by your note, but for what it's worth, obviously your mother did not love you like she should have, and like most mothers love their kids. I am sorry about this and know it must have hurt you a lot and continues to hurt. I've met many adults who still wish their moms could be 'mommies' to them.

There are just people who are incapable of loving and showing it. This can be very painful. What you need to do is accept that there is nothing wrong with you, that the problem lies with her. You need to forgive your mother for being this way, and not expect more of her than she can give, which is not going to be much.

Try not to think of this over and over. Invest in good relationships with friends or other relatives who will value and affirm you. Find hobbies you enjoy and are good at, and make time for them.

Answer 4

this is hurtful and the mother should be ashamed, but it's unreal that this happens everyday to so many children . I the person is older now and can think for him or her self then you have to make your own choice to forgive or not to. Always remember though you are only as beautiful as your heart and that's what matters. Very rude though I'm sorry that anyone had to Indore that.

Answer 5

I would have low self esteem. But then as I grew older I would realize just how low her self esteem had to be to say such thoughtless and cruel things.

Answer 6

here have a hug.. (( )) and one for Ma too (( )) i think enjoyed. my nieces and nephews my sisters my relatives is somewhat neat whether they seem to be a million miles away i understand that they love me.. If i did no longer understand that i might in simple terms have not have been given any reason to stay now might I? i think particularly enjoyed at present.. so i'll proportion it with you.. ok? every physique else needs a hug.. come and get it they are unfastened this night..!!

Answer 7

It happened to me. Not my mother, my grandmother. Thirty years later I still bear the emotional scars.