My children are all old enough to take care of there self but when i leave home to go on a simple date (movies) all Hell, breaks lose, like my 16yr old is gone no one can find him.
my 18yr old has his girl in his room! What should I do?
2006-12-27 17:51:04 · 12 answers · asked by jakhiamylove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly, from a kids point of view... im only 20 but i remember what its like to disobey a parent and get a little rowdy. i cant help you with a solution but i can tell you that when i lived at home, i hated rules.. it was that simple. i was lucky to have a little freedom with friends and boyfreinds but i often wouldnt come home when i said that i would. i understand now why my parents got mad at me but at the time i honestly didnt care. i was angry that they woudl punish me or yell.. and thats all i thought about, i was too young to take the initiative to understand why, so i began to rebel more. id take the consequences as they came and make sure to have as much fun as i could while i was disobeying to even it out at the other end. I often wonder what my parents could have done to better control me and unless you know exactly what someone is thinking in their heads its pretty impossible, its hard to say for myself even. With the 18 yr old tho.. i know what thats like...but maybe together the three of you should come up with rules that you all respect and will follow. So with the 16 year old hes probably leaving without telling you because hes afraid youll say no if he wants to go to a party or go out, he doesnt want to stay home when all his friends are doing something else. So if you cant lock him up, wouldnt you rather just know where he is.. thats about all you can do with teenagers, give them the freedom but balance it with the responsibility of calling every now and then so you know theyre safe... The 18 yr old, if the no girls is a rule you want to stick to and hes in a serious relationship, id rethink that...if its a random girl its probably best to do something about it.. talk to him if you can( i know i hated talking about stuff though) only once in a while you could actually catch me in a sharing mood... good luck !!!
2006-12-27 18:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by cronkhite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd put them up for adoption those ungrateful heathens. Either that, or remove the sense of smell from both of them and threaten not to give it back until they are perfect angels. Also, boys like girls. Your 18 year old having a 16 year old girl in his room is just nature happening. Let it flow.
2006-12-27 17:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick the 18 year old out of the house. Make sure you are not dragging some bad example lowlife into the house yourself. Let the law handle the sixteen year old if he is incorrigible.
Or wait for about 4 more year and let'er rip.
2006-12-27 17:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Donald W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the parent. Tell them they will have to get a babysitter or will be grounded for a while if they do not behave themselves. Setup curfews, be the being of authority in the household.
2006-12-27 17:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick the 18 year old out of the house
wait to years and repeat
2006-12-27 17:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your house your rules... why are you letting your kids run your life and ruin theirs..
Kick the older one out! and warn the younger one..
I am surprised of your weakness.. I do not mean to be hurtful... but who is the parent.. and who has the experience of life.. What are you teaching them... that they have this all wrong!
2006-12-27 18:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by Esther J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your date when it's not their family time.
2006-12-27 17:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by lm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to grow-up. You have a life too!
2006-12-27 17:53:00 · answer #9 · answered by Delta Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them... and go enjoy yourself.
You gave them life and you nurture them...
so you don't owe them anything anymore.
2006-12-27 17:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by MFD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋