My girl and I are having problems, at first everything was cool, now all we do is argue cuz she dont trust me and believe what I say. I know we miss each other but why is she taking it to the extreme, it gets so bad that we kinda threaten to break up. It hurts and it sucks but what is going on? Any advice from anyone?
2006-12-27 17:46:57 · 19 answers · asked by joeyschmoeytx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all for all your help, heres more though...we are both coming off of relationships and she was hurt in her last one as was I. Only difference is that I was cheated on in my previous relationship AND I cheated as well. And she my gf knows it, we talked about it. We're crazy about each other and totally in love, Im sincere and honest with her. I work with comps and when we're on the phone and hears the keyboard she assumes Im talking to other females, which IM NOT. I love her and truly care for her and she tells me the same so what can be causing this bahavior? Last, when women try and talk to me I tell her about it and let her know shes the only one for me and she tells me the same when men hit on her. We both got some issues, I just dont want those issues to cost us the best relationship we both feel we've ever been in. Thanks all.
2006-12-27 18:04:59 · update #1
ask her what it is that you are doing that is causing her to not trust you. Be firm and ask her to tell you what is going on. If she resists or remains combative, try to maintain a calm and steady head and don't raise your voice. tell her how you really feel. That arguing during the few moments you have to communicate is destructive to your relationship and it is not a relationship you want to have between you. You'll have to try and soothe her and speak soft to her and tell her you care...etc...all the mushy stuff...only if you can mean it and be sincere.
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you two need to see each other, soon. - o! and when you call her to let her know when you're going to see her...don't be on the computer. Give her some undivided attention.
2006-12-27 18:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well What You Need To Understand Is That Love Is Trust! If You Truely Love Someone You Will Trust Them! And I Long Distance Relationship Will Most Likely Never Work Out! One Of You Will Probably Cheat Are Just Get Bored And End It! Sorry But That's Just How Life Is.
2006-12-27 17:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Prince 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Long distance is hard, for sure! I think the best thing you can do is continue to prove to her that you are able to be trusted. (And hopefully you are) Don't get mad when she feels insecure, just remind her that you love her. Call her any chance you get. Try not to say you were too busy to answer, it sucks. She will question why. Hopefully she can get a chance to visit you and picture everything when you say where you are. If you love each other enough, this is going to work out. It just takes dedication and patience. Goodluck to you both!
2006-12-27 17:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. Except I am the girl...Whenever my b/f is gone, i feel as if he isn't part of my life. I know he is but, it just feels like there is so much distance between us. Something that has helped us, is just make sure to schedule time with just you two. No one else, then she doesn't feel like she has to share you with everyone. Make the little time together count. Say the special things you want to say to her, don't hold back on saying the sweet/sincere stuff!
2006-12-27 17:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those relationships are very hard to deal with. She sounds like though she dont trust you, or else she is just very insecure about herself. Maybe she has been hurt before, that would for sure bring doubt to ones eyes.
2006-12-27 17:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by notalucky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off you need to be 100% honest with her. it sounds like she is feeling a little insecure. talk to her but make sure it dosent sound like you are accusing her. just be open and honest. is there anyway for you to see her maybe a visit would calm the waters. also you need to decide if this is what you really want. maybe it is time to let this relationship go.
2006-12-27 17:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by skittles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aint gonna like this but here it goes...first of all long distance relationships just dont work. Second if she dont trust you it's because she is doing something stupid and thinks you are too. Odds are she is feeling insecure because she is already at fault.
2006-12-27 17:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by boobear735 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a reason to be insecure! I don't agree with long distance relationships but then again I myself know that I could not deal with it. Hey if your being true then that sounds like thats something she needs to deal with.
2006-12-27 17:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by vickielynnperry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have much advise for you but wanted to tell you that long distant relationship's are very hard on both parties, and it takes a very strong relationship to survive.. :-) good luck!
2006-12-27 17:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by browneyedonna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say this is common among long distance relationships. You need to talk to her. And if nothing gets compromised, you need to break up with her.
2006-12-27 17:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋