I have been seeing this man for over a month now.He has actually particallly moved in with me(before he went back to New Zealand) for Christmas holidays).
He phones me every 2 nd day,tells me he misses me,he also give me his parents home number and their email if I want to get ahold of him.
He phoned me lastnight from NZ to let me know hes heading South NZ,to visit a friend,and told me he won`t be calling me for 2 days,.Of course this puzzles me,makes me wonder why he can`t phone me.
I miss him alot,and I feel insecure.
What is this telling me when he says he won`t be calling me for 2 days,my fear is he is seeing some other girl there.
Is this wrong,and even though hes doing everything he said he will,why is that not enough?
Please anyone,I will appreciate your advice on this.
Thankyou in advance for all who answers...
2006-12-27 17:27:49 · 11 answers · asked by sunflower2052002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well NZ is a lot different than here so I dont think that he is doing anything down there. You should keep your head up its a new relationship you still have alot to learn about each other i wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-27 17:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. i know a long distance relationship is never easy especially when you heard that he was not going to phone you for a full 2 days. i think you can call him and asked him why he cant phone you. Is it the reception prob or the applying of the global line stuff. if really worst to worst that he couldnt phone you, then you can try other alternative like email or web cam. Then you listen to his reasons why he couldnt phone you and feel whether it make sense to you a not or is he jus telling you a lie. But PLEASE dont be too sensitive and let your mind run wild. In a long distance relationship the most important thing is trust. so first you must trust him and understand his reason. so there will be two scenarios for you. First, see whether is he lying to you and really have a ger out there by questioning him why he cant phone you. if his reasons are rubbish then you need to review your relationship with him. second, if he really cant phone you these two days because of reception or phone line stuff, then be understanding and say lovely words like i love you and please miss me stuff like that. And then you try to fill yourself with a lot of thing during these two days and dont let your mind think negatively. Most effective way is to hang out with your ger friends and chill out and so before you realised is he coming back, the two days have already passed.All the best. You're welcome!
2006-12-27 17:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by star_dust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe where he is going in NZ there are no phones, or phones just for local calls. Don't know. But if he is willing to tell you where he is going and won't be able to talk to you for 2 days, I don't think he is seeing anyone else besides his friend.
My hubby goes to see his folks and says he will call me when he gets there and then I end up having to call him, cause he forgets. Then I don't hear from him his whole trip, and his folks just live 3 hrs. from here. Go figure.
Have a little trust in him, it is very possible there is a very good reason for him not calling you. Ask him when you talk to him again. It is worth it for your sanity.
2006-12-27 17:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you've been dating a month. Relax. He TOLD YOU he won't call for 2 days. This is a good thing. He didn't just not call for 2 days. Maybe his friend lives in some remote area, etc. and they're going hunting. You really need to be less clingy, and slow this relationship down or you will be headed for disaster. You jumped in way too fast and have had no time to build trust. You're just paranoid but really you need to slow down. OMG.
2006-12-27 17:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the friends he is visiting may not be able to afford that kind of phone bill for calling THAT long distance. Since this is such a new relationship. I would't push it, he hasn't given you any reason to distrust him, so don't.
And on my own personal opinon, moving in after a month really isn't a good idea!
2006-12-27 17:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he hasn't done any thing to deserve the jealesy than let it be you can't think the worst every time he is not by your side. ask him why he could'nt call you, maybe it it something so simple that your going to feel bad even worring about it. you ahve only known this guy for a very short time. you have to see how things are later on and if he keeps being secretive or not. good luck
2006-12-27 17:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
two words....trust issues
Has he given you any reason to think he's cheating other then he isnt going to call you for two days? When I was visiting a friend for 4 days, i didnt call my bf until the third day. We were so busy doing stuff that by the time I got back, I knew he was sleeping.
2006-12-27 17:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Ladylike ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a private reason but it sounds fishy to me. Even if you ask him, he could lie his way out. You can tell if he is not telling the truth. The problem is that if you know the truth, you will not want to face reality.
2006-12-27 17:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calls to nz are expensive if you know that hi is coming back to you after the holidays relax and allow him to enjoy him self
2006-12-27 17:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by totally confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With as insecure and crazy as you sound I damn sure would not call you. Think about it...........maybe they don't have phones or maybe he does not want to call you because he is on vacation.......you are doing what most females do......make it all about them.
2006-12-27 17:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋