Pls someone help, Im so scared its like Im gonna throw up?

Question

Im really scared of growing up, Im only a freshman in high school and Im scared because I might not get to college in I might end up homless and poor,My avrage has been a C ever since I was in gr.3 thats why my parents transfered me to a new school, more lower class than my last one.but no change in my avrage. I study really hard and I do good in tests but when its exam day, I start to get nervous then I just forget everything I studied. and I get a C in my avrage. Im thinking about having buissness as my major in college then try and get an acting career,and if the acting is a bust. I have a degree in buissness. but I get scared and its like I wanna kill myself before I start suffering in the streets. I talk to my friends about it and they say not to worry because we're still high school freshmen. But if I dont worry I'll becaome a senior and then I'll worry even more.

yes, I have been tested for a learning disability, and all they said was im having trouble concentrating thats all, and they said I was really cometative. I played checkers 28 times till I beat the guy who was testing me

Answer 1

Your plan to have a back-up career in business is a good one. Even if the Acting takes off, having a business background will help in managing that career.

Some fear is understandable. You just need to develop more confidence in yourself and get your grades up. Instead of talking to your friends, talk to your counselor and your teachers. Try to work with them to figure out what you can do to beat your fear of tests and get your grades up.

I don't know what your study practices are like or if you ever do extra credit work. But, you could try practice tests or extra credit work to help you get over some of your fears. You could also check with your school to see if they offer any advanced or college level courses to get a start on that as well.

This is mostly about fear. Start by focusing on your goals and not on the various 'What if?' thoughts that you are dealing with now. Set small, short term goals. Talking to teachers. Getting a better grade on the next test. Asking about a tutor. Start a study group. Take initiative. Doing more will help you overcome your fear and give you more confidence.

There's no reason you can't do this. Focus. Work through it. Ask for help from people that can actually help you.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

When I was young I felt just as you are feeling and I will tell you what I have learned after so many years. Live one day at a time. Don't try to think too far into the future if it makes you scared. Just take each day and be grateful for that one day and do your best just for 24 hours. The next day, wake up and try for another 24 hours but don't bite off too many days at once. Handle today's assignments, readings and perhaps even a test but only the one in front of you right now. Don't try to think too much about things that haven't even happened yet.

You are doing the best you can and all you can do, is all you can do and all you can do is enough! Think about the things you do well, congratulate yourself for those things and the things that you don't do well, don't let it matter too much. You are trying hard to be successful and if you continue trying, you will eventually succeed...don't spend too much time thinking of failure, instead have an attitude of gratitude one day at a time.

Hang in there and be positive...you will succeed one day at a time! Easy does it!

Answer 3

Too much info.Yechh! Have you ever heard of a self fulfilling prophecy? By worrying like this you are practically ensuring that your worst fears will come true .Take a deep breath and relax.Now you said that you do well on tests so we know that you can do well.It is your worrying that is causing your problems come exam time so I suggest you talk to someone about this worrying maybe some self help books can help."The power of your subconscious mind " by Joseph Murphy is a good one.You are a hard working intelligent girl ,taking exams is no different than other tests and you do well on them you will do well on all other types of tests also.You are prepared and know the material.You are going to get the grades you want.I do not let other people's opinions of me or anything else stop me from reaching my goals .I see a positive outcome for me always.

Answer 4

Ah! A fellow philosopher of tests; yes most of our kind think just like you did, "I worked so hard to learn it all, on test day my brain just says, I am going to end up like so and so, so what does it matter if I am going to be a poor person."

It is the wisdom that enriches our daily lives and knowing the answers to the teachers questions are important only on the one day of the week you take them tests.

After that; all the wisdom you have will accompany you where ever you go. And if you want people to respect that you have them, you just go for the A's,

If you want to be a home body, house mouse, tender loving person, with a life on the street staring at you, that's what you will be.

If you stare, at that reflection, in the mirror, in the eye, and see the person that walks among the stars and want to walk there too you can.

If you got all the grades you will be able to say, "I got em if I need em!"

Just go for the A's and forget about what may come of it.

At least you will have the dream of knowing you could be that person in the mirror holding all the aces gives you a support system, and walking among the stars with the rest of us who have knowledge we drudge up along the way to get the teacher to say, you're a winner, isn't always the winning est way either, just in case you need to know that.

It is what you learned and what you know, when you need it, that will get you through life's roller coaster ride.

Answer 5

Once you get into college it's easy. You can schedule your classes anytime you want them to be. Like if you learn better in the afternoon you can just have late classes. I'm a management major and all of the classes are similar so it's like you are just getting a review in each one. And you are only a freshman, you have lots of time to get your GPA up and get better grades. You could go talk to your counselor about everything because they can help you realize what it takes to get into college and you can have a goal to strive for. But everything works out and when you look back at your high school years you will want to remember prom and homecoming and friends.. not worrying about college yet! good luck!

Answer 6

Your situation is not unusual--for a lot of reasons. The biggest one is that you don't have a good perspective on what's involved in making that college degree happen. That is NOT your fault--its the result of a lot of hype and misinformation.

So start dealing with your fears by calming down--because you have TIME--lots of it--to get your grades up. And forget about trying to decide on a major--or other such issues. Odds are you'll change it after you start college--most people do.

The point is--take a deep breath and get your priorities in order. The first one is to deal with your anziety--because its obvious that is paraalyzing your ability to do your schoolwork. I'm not going to try to give you a pop psych answer. But I can give you some advice--real advice. Here it is: Your school has a counsellor. Go see him/her--talk about your fears. Do the same with your parents--and your teachers. And--this doesn'tsound nice, but it is true--this is something where your fellow teens aren't qualified to help you--they are in the same boat you are. Go to the people who know what to do to support you.

And good luck--you'll do well. Believe it or not--you are actually in better shape than most of your classmates! I'm not kidding. You are taking school and your future seriously--and most of them are not that mature at that age. You just need to learn how to calm down anduse that seriousness and maturity to your advantage. Do that--and YOU will be the rising star in your class. That's not "feel-good" hype--I have seen this before. Time after time--a young person scared to death-if they get control of that fear, their overcommittment becomes an asset that puts them ahead of the pack in reccord time.

Answer 7

I'm 33 yrs old and in college trying to obtain my degree for nursing. I know how you feel about test anxiety. I think it's a state of mind. I think the problem here with you is you worry about everything (like me). You worry about things that haven't even happen yet. You set the bar too high (meaning you have high expectations for yourself) and as a result you create more anxiety to succeed at your level of expectation. I had to accept failure as a possibility as a mean to cope with my test anxiety. I was placing too much pressure on myself.

Another possibility is have you been tested for any type of learning disability? It is rather unusual for a third grader and even a high school freshman to have chronic anxiety. It sounds like you are struggling through school. Have this checked out. It may be your answer to it all.

Also, I would advise that you seek a counselor. Perhaps they can prescribe some anxiety medication to help ease your nervousness. It is impairitive that you seek some help because your chronic anxiety is disturbing your academic function in more ways that you realize. Ultimately, it can lead to other health issues.

Answer 8

Just calm down. I'm sure you;ll be fine. To have a good job you really need a degree and luck. But in school study hard and dont loose focus. If you want a good decent job contact the workforce program in you neighborhood and they will set you off with a good job. Just take one day at a time, you'll be fine. Goodluck

Answer 9

Oh man. I hate that feeling of growing-up anxiety. It really hurts my head when i have to sit down and think about all these pressures that are going to accumulate in my life.

But you know what? You are going to do fine and that is because you are worried. The one thing that is going to keep you going and give you the ability to succeed is that you care. You care enough to be worried. At this point if i were you i would start talking to your teachers. Explain the situation to them and see if they have any ideas or tricks. You could go in at lunch and get extra help from them. Stuff like that really helps!

A lot of mean/scary teachers have little tricks that you have to figure out. One of my teachers hated people who she thought didnt try. If she thought you didnt try it was like an automatic fail, so after i started talking to her and going in after school/lunch she actually started helping me and catering to my learning style.
Dont talk about killing yourself like that though, everyone has a talent you just need to find yours. Find out what you need to do to succeed and do it that way.

oooo maybe this will be comforting? A lot of schools, at least here in california, dont look at your freshman year grades, so you have a little longer to get things sorted out.

:-)
good luck!

Answer 10

If your friends are giving you advice like don't worry then you could probably find better friends. If this is how you feel though you should go see your counselor and get into a better school not a worse school.

GOOD LUCK