okay so im 14 and ive been with this same guy for the past 2 and a half years on and off. Hes always getting mad at me for things that i dont do and he has no trust in me. I always tell him that if i wanted to be with someone else i wouldnt be with him. So about a month ago he breaks up with me because he doesnt think that its "working" so now like its winter break and i wanna go out and have fun. So theres this kid whos 2 years older then me and kind of wants to be with me and i was with him last night and i hooked up with him. HES GORGEOUS! and i have a small thing for him but i couldnt live with it and i had to tell my guy for 2 years what happened.. and he actually cried and was so upset and was begging me for another chance and i had to tell him that i didnt know because of how many times he hurt me and for once last night i wasnt upset over him. But i kind of regret everything but then again i dont. Hes calling me tomorrow to hangout and talk. What should i do?
2006-12-27 17:21:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His looks arent everything, he is treating you like you have no value in the relationship, you need to stand up for yourself and tell him how you feel, if he is going to be like this to you, you might wnat to let him go
2006-12-27 17:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend and nothing else. Sounds like you managed to move on with your life, now he needs to do the same thing. How many more times does he need to break up with you before you actually realize there is someone out there who might want to be with you for a long time. This other guy wants you now cause you are not sitting at home moping. You have showed him, you can move on and I don't think he likes that. Stay friends with him if you want, but I think a clean and total break would be the best thing.
You said for once you were finally not upset over him. I think you really answered your own question, sweetie. Now is the time for you to break it off.
2006-12-27 17:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are pretty much and adult now and a woman of the world. You've been hookin up since you were, what 11 1/2 years old.
You still seeking advice Sister? Like give it a while till you can find studs that don't get big sloppy alligator tears when they need another round of skin time.
Maybe you should concentrate on a little more mental development before you bring a boat load of kids into the world and become a professional burden on society.
2006-12-27 17:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 14! What are you thinking?!! First of all, if you were my daughter you would not be dating a guy since you were 12. There will be many guys in the future for you. Let this jerk go and concentrate on school and friends, not boyfriends. You're a kid and you need to be acting like it. I can't believe you started dating at 12. When I was 12 I was home playing with barbies. Yes, I had my crushes like every kid does, but didn't mean I started having relationships. What do your parents think? and where are they in this picture?
2006-12-27 17:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by MRod 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok obviously u guys have lost trust in eachother!! so wat u have to do is go have a talk make him feel like u trust him with ur life, im sure everything will work out then. Im almost sure that u guys definitly wanna be together =D do not let the love die girl, keep talking with him do ur best to make the trust work, hangout more often, and hoo cares if he blames u for things just tell him u didnt do it, then it doesnt matter wehter he beleives u or not. Just do as much as u can to bring back the trust , and everything will work out.o and get back together.
2006-12-27 17:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by cute_lil_surfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like if yall r on and off thin yall must have somthing go n 4 each other. but if he aint got no trust n u thin u aint got nut n. and i wouldnt feel bad bout go n out cuz,4 1 if he broke up wit u thin u r free, #2 deal n wit tat kind a head ache 4 the past 2 and a half yrs. u diserve a nite out.i would give may b 1 more chance at the most and if he blew it thin to hell wit em
2006-12-27 17:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, just because this other guy is gorgeous doesnt mean he should be put before the guy of 2 years. Apparently this guy has to still have feelings for you if he cried and asked for another chance. You need to tell him though that he needs to trust you. Show him that you want to be with him and only him. Actions are louder than words. Good Luck!
2006-12-27 17:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah:) 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is hooking up? Is that just kissing? Geez im getting old, LOL. k, heres the thing, boys at that age are sooooo insecure. They can't help it. Even if they don't want to be with you, they don't want you to be with anyone else. Catch what im sayin. You are WAY too young to be stuck with one guy. Play the field, see what is out there, explore your options. Or you will regret it and end up resenting him.
2006-12-27 17:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by .·:**:·. Chrissy.·:**:·. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him how u feel and that he needs to realize how much you care and if he cant care for u the way u need to be cared for then he isn't the guy for u, i would not start a relationship with the older1 .become his close friend and go to him for advise
he is a guy and can under stand a guys actions ask him whats going on with your bf/x-bf
im going through the same thing
:((
2006-12-27 17:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by felx202 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be too young for this but here it goes: If you have feelings for someone else then it's already over. If you think you dont want to be with him no more then you prpbably dont. Use your heart instead of your head and remember you have live with your decisions so take some time and think about it.
2006-12-27 17:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by boobear735 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "hooked up?" Are you ready to have a child at 14? If not, stop hooking up until you are ready. Also if you cant make relationship decisions on your own, you probably dont need to be in one.
2006-12-27 17:24:43 · answer #11 · answered by Rick R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋