My parents are always focused on my older sister and my younger brother and they pay no attention to me. It kind of makes me feel invisible. What can I do to get them to notice me more?
2006-12-27 16:54:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I felt the same way, being the middle grandson of "grandma's bunch." From a very tight, old fashioned family, where we are all raised as brothers and sisters, and still see each other the same today.
I just changed my appearance, when the rest were all military look, I grew long hair and let a beard grow.
If the listened to pop music, I had death metal blaring.
When they all became churchy folk, I would go to church, only to stir trouble with those I deemed poseurs.
Either way I was noticed big time. Now that im a little bit older, I wish I was invisible again.
2006-12-27 17:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem (I'm the 3rd in line out of 4) and nobody noticed me either until my 2 older sisters got into trouble and then we all got in trouble for it. BUT, hang in there...you may feel invisible now but you will be the one in the spotlight soon.Trust me. It may take a while but you will be there. I am now the one who keeps hearing how I was the child who never gave my parents a hard time (they didn't know all that I did) and they are saying I am the only one with an ounce of brains and the one who can handle any problems that comes up because I did it for all the years my sisters took all the attention. Keep your chin up...things will change on there own.
2006-12-28 01:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by redy2screm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being the middle child has always been hard, because you can't do the things that the older sibling can and nothing you do ais as good as the baby of the family .so first stop trying so hard oyu are not loved any less. and sit you parents down when it is only the 3 of you and tell them how you feel ,not as important as the others, and that nothing you do is as good as the other siblings(even though that is not true by far) try to spend more time with them like ask you mom for just the 2 of you to go to lunch or see a movie. and pay attention to what they are into so you have something to talk to them about that they are interested in good luck
2006-12-28 01:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by ykingrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The squeaky wheel gets the grease. That means, if you let people know you feel ignored, they will pay attention to you (for a while, anyway). But also remember, people like to have attention paid to them (just as you do). So, they will be most likely to pay attention to someone who notices them. So, if you want attention, GIVE attention.
2006-12-28 00:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
middle child syndrome. i'm sorry you feel invisible. what exactly is it you want? more time? more money? are there special talents your siblings have that your parents support? or is this just a woe is me perception on your part....
talk to your parents let them know how your feeling.... discuss options that are acceptable to you both... helping you develope a hobby.. a desginated weekly time just for you..... a review of the families ablums.... lunch on a particular day a week.. etc...
sometimes parents trully love all their kids the same but connect more with one child or another...
what are you parents interested in.... can you help?
2006-12-28 01:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to them and explain to them how you feel, really try to sit them down and tell them, don't let them over look you they may not realize they are doing it, so at least bring it to there attention then you can go from there, if things don't change..
Just be you , soon or later you will shine anyway... Good luck
2006-12-28 01:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by jakhiamylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something that youre brothers and sisters wouldnt do thats what make you guys so different because parents see you in different personailities which one are you
2006-12-28 00:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Beverly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fart really loud on a next family function ! believe me they will notice that , not only that they will smell it too , my family members do it to me all the time , for attention , and I still love them !
2006-12-28 00:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, sit down and tell them that you are feeling left out. Hold nothing back, and tell them exactly how you feel. They may not realize that you are feeling left out. I think things will change for you if you do. Good luck.
2006-12-28 01:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by rosey 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do more great stuff and dont get involved in any after school activities unless if its sports then make sure they go to ur sports games and dont be scared to show off in frunt of ur parents it can only help u
2006-12-28 00:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋