I keep stressing out about everything! I feel like I'm not doing well at work. I keep worrying about money, bills, debt, etc. I can't get a moment to myself. My boyfriend's friends are always crashing at our place. My place is always messy....
I can't even relax when I try. Will someone help me? Give me some ideas on how to de-stress.
2006-12-27 16:52:06 · 10 answers · asked by misschaos489 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My boyfriend has nothing to do with my stress. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He makes me feel better about things. :-)
2006-12-27 17:06:32 · update #1
hi! everyone stresses, and the first step (and the right one at that is admitting it and venting! ) so congrats. Second, I say you let out a goooooood scream . THen third, make a list (mental or written) of what you want to accomplish....clean your room? tell your boyfriend his friends cant crash at the PLACE all the time? find fun things to do? etc. and make a TIMELINE, when to do them? fourth, DO THEM! and fifth, remember everyone stresses..but you'll feel much better once your life is in order. Just smile NOW, yes NOW and realize everything will be okay.
2006-12-27 17:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to lay down the law on the boyfriends friends crashing there, anytime that they want to. That is called being more assertive. You really need to have a talk to your boyfriend to and let him know how you are feeling , and all the worries you have on your mind, and that he is a big boy now, and he can help keep the house clean. Is he not working and helping out with the bills, cause if he is working and just blowning his money on anything he wants to get for himself and you are paying all the bills will i would have to say that is not a very fair relationship, so you might want to talk to him about that , and if he don't think he should help, or that his friends shouldn't be crashing there all the time, then maybe he really isn't the right guy for you. Cause right now you sound like you are way over whelmed, and stressed to the maxs. And he really should be seeing that and trying to help you out, and help you relax, and have his friends back off some. All people do need space, their own, it sounds like you don't get any of your own space time, nor any quity time with your boyfriend with out his friends being there too. And I will tell you now that is not good time just for the both of you , having all of his friends crashing and trashing your place all of the time. So you are going to have to sit and have a talk with this guy, and see where you two stand, and get some help from him, and less time with his so called buds that like to crash and trash your place then leavel. You really need to get away for a weekend , to someplace quit, and don't let his friends stay at your place while you are gone. Cause you don't need to come back to the mess they will leave you. You could just take maybe a week off for your own sake, and sanity, and get some nice quit place, where you will not be bother, and be able to lay back and just enjoy the peace and quit , and not have to deal with the rat race out there for a while, even if it is a short while. Other wise lady you are going to stress yourself out so bad, that you are going to have to proably take time off to work on you self, maybe in a hospitpal sitting, or something like that. Stress will catch up with you, and it is one of the leading reasons for people getting sick all the time, and not getting the rest and relaxation that they need. So try a little get away, and don't let your boyfriends friend s stay at your place, put the law down. And maybe if you don't take your boyfriend with you on this little get away, you may just stop for a while and look at if this is the kind of realationship that you want to be in all of the time, always overwhemed and stressed, which does not make out to much of a relationship at all. I hope this has help a little.
Good luck and god bless.....
Happy hoildays
2006-12-28 01:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your supervisor at work and see what you can do to be a better employee. Cut up the credit cards and work on getting out of debt, stop spending money. tell your boyfriend either he and his friends start doing housework such as cooking and cleaning or they can all hit the road. Leave a list of things you want them to do. Get a handle on this. Take control. Channel this stress into working on saving money. Set aside a room in your house or at least a corner of a room with a comfortable chair perhaps a tv and a little table. Sit back read a book while your freeloaders clean house.
2006-12-28 00:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn how to say NO and mean it. Tell your boyfriend that he cannot have his friends staying at your place. If he refuses, you will have to tell them that you aren't running a hotel. Taking control will make you feel better. Make a plan for your future. Where would you like to be in 5 years? Start looking for a better job or train for one. The worst thing you can do is mope and while. Take action. And if the boyfriend is part of the problem, you may have to cut your losses there, too. Did you know that depression is caused by repressed anger?
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. I know that sounds like a corny cliche but it's true. Pick yourself up and get going in a new direction.
2006-12-28 01:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just quoted my life my bro has friends over all day music loud i'm in debt I owe every credit card co in the usa! bills out the water property taxes higher than the cost of living Im on a diet cant concentrate need more money.....................u think u can give me some tips I having chest pains due to stress I've lost over 10 pounds in 3 days due to stress
2006-12-28 00:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. It is going away now that the holidays are almost over. You can get through it. Maybe eat some sunflower seeds to take out your stress or sqeeze a stress ball.
2006-12-28 00:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by -Veggie Chick- 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Physical energy. Go for a run, swim, walk or whatever gets you hot and sweaty. Keep going until you are exausted. This will definitly relax you.
2006-12-28 01:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by spils 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend that u cant stand it and he needs to help and pitch in if he wants to live with youand if his friends want to sleep over tell him he wants a clean damn house when they leave and if they leave it messy put him to clean up the mess bring out the girl power
2006-12-28 00:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
y wont u relax and go out once in a while..it myt burn you out..go to a place where you can have a time for your self,.how about going home to your family..good luck and happy holidays
2006-12-28 01:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by gilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laugh and lighten up on yourself. You're the only one who is suffering from it.Do you what you enjoy. Life can be long, but life can also be short and quick.
2006-12-28 00:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋