There is this guy, his name is Spencer. I met him over the summer at this church thing, and we stayed friends even when it was over. I knew he liked me, even though he never admitted to it. We talked for quite a while over AIM, the phone, myspace, and even a few texts here and there. He then invited me to his sweet 16 where I met this really nice guy named Joey. Joey and I hit it off right away. Despite the fact that I knew Spencer liked me, I started to hang out with Joey because we got along great. Well, over the summer, Spencer thought I had liked him back and then when he heard his best friend and I were friends, he flipped out! Spencer got pretty upset with me and sent me this long email about his feelings for me and how he was pissed that I was "in love with" his best friend! The email scared me off pretty much, It was just too deep and serious for me. Joey and I are still friends(but nothing more) and Spence won't talk with Joey anymore. I feel bad, like I had caused this.
2006-12-27 16:48:40 · 11 answers · asked by Mandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Spence is still in lust with me, always asking me if I have changed my mind. Now Joey likes me, and I still think of him as a friend. I don't want things to be weird between all of us but I can tell they will never be the same. I have no idea what to do! NOW(if your still with me!) my ex comes into the picture. I hadn't seen him in two years, but then at this play, I did. The second we saw each other, I felt this surge in my heart as if I was still in love with HIM! We hardly watched the show because we were staring at each other across the auditorium the entire time. When it was over, I saw him one last time when I was leaving. He gave me this look I can't get out of my mind, it felt awesome and yet, at the same time made me want to cry! I think I still love him, but I don't know what to do with Spencer and Joey. I really want to stay close with Joey because we're such good friends. But Spencer, I don't know. He just isn't the same! I am really confused! What should I do?!?!?!
2006-12-27 16:56:54 · update #1
lol it's not your fault Spencer totally flipped his ****.
although if you'd like to avoid some awkward situations i wouldn't get anymore with joey than just friends.
i don't know what to do about your ex. how do you know that you're not "in lust" with him too? i mean when was the last time you talked to him??
there are some people (especially my ex) whom my stomach feels like it's about to turn into about wring itself everytime i even think about them. some people we're just very very attracted to, even if they're good people, sometimes our body says something so loud that we can't hear our hearts and our minds.
2006-12-27 17:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Amelia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Spencer is immature, that's for sure. If you really like Joey keep friends with him. Honestly teenagers always go thru things like that. Spencer scared you off, don't worry about it. Him and Joey's relationship is theirs to fix. Don't try to fix it, but if you want to stay friends with Joey don't feel guilty about it. This isn't your fault... you and Spencer were not together when you met Joey.
2006-12-28 00:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Spencer shouldn't have freaked out like that yall were just friends and think he thought yall we goin to the next step and stuff it isn't your fault i mean u and Spencer weren't even goin out he probably doesn't realize that u and joey are just friends and u might not be in love just really really close
btw i would be freaked out by the e-mail thing also i mean feelings and stuff
2006-12-28 00:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell Spencer that he had misunderstood the whole thing and that you have a whole monastary full of feelings for him. but mostly I think you should decide whether you want Spencer or Joey.
2006-12-28 00:52:43 · answer #4 · answered by siabros 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you were talking to spencer dosen't give him the right to flip out over you being friends with anyone. He never told you that he liked you & he doesn't own you. It is not your fault, he needs to grow up..Take care
2006-12-28 00:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did not cause this and wat i think u should do is email spencer back and tell him that u didn't know that he liked u cuz he said that he didn't so then that should solve things o and if that doesn't work then tell spencer that u guys r 2 good of friends to ruin anything if u guys break up wen ur in a relationship
2006-12-28 00:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to make joey and spencer friends again that will solve the problem
2006-12-28 01:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by tdang424 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell spencer to leave joey out of it. it wasn't his falt was it? talk to him and calm him down, tell him theres nothing going on between you to. try to clear joeys name. and tecnecally it wasnt your falt either. spencer just filped out on the mere fact that you to were friends. tell him thats all you are, is friends. he'll go on and on about how your in love with his best friend and not him, but if you keep telling him that youre not going out he'll eventually calm down. and its not his business if you do. tell him to CHILL and remember its not your falt either!
2006-12-28 00:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by alien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spence needs to calm down man. lol you need to express this to him. although his feelings were crazy and too serious, you need to try to bring spence and joey back together as friends.
2006-12-28 00:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by Kell Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing- but learn. If yo DO like a guy- leave his friends alone- (totally) kay?
2006-12-28 00:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋