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What do you guys think about saving yourself until marriage?Does virginity make a woman better?

2006-12-27 16:31:53 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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This is the kind of question I wish us guys got more often...

Yes! Absolutely I think you ought to save yourself until marriage. I'm not married--yet--and I really want my future wife to be saving herself for me. What a gift! How much more special will it be that I, too, am saving myself?

Virginity doesn't make a girl "better," per se. And there are many girls out there who have had sex before but re-committed themselves to abstinence which is making the best out of a bad choice. They key, I think, is for women and men to know that having sex signals a major move towards committment and intimacy that should be shared only within marriage. When you share that bond with someone other than your future husband I really do believe it is, in a sense, cheating. That bond should be shared ONLY between husband and wife.

I am a 22 year old student at a pretty fancy university where being a virgin is absurd. I am a serious Christian and that 's primarily why I keep the pants zipped up. But even if I weren't so religious I still could find compelling reasons to be abstinent. Namely, that I would want to give my future spouse the gift of my "first time."

For all girls out there who think that virginity is merely an antiquated moral choice for the dweebs out there who can't "get any," think again. I am a virgin--believe me about this--not because I can't find a bedmate (Lord knows it's not for the lack of opportunity), it's because I haven't found a soulmate.

2006-12-27 16:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by YourMom 4 · 6 0

If you are a responsible adult (18 or older) and you have your head on straight (like placing education, career, before anything else... ) and can control your emotional side. Sex could be a very fulfilling part of your life without being married... I feel that a woman should try out different models of the male species before jumping right into a marriage... because if she doesn't then when she gets married and then gets in the rut of being married then gets really bored because the romance is dieing or what ever...and she hasn't been with anyone else except her husband then the first thing she is going to wonder is what would it be like to be with other men... So if she gets that out of her system before she is tied down to a man then she will know if she made the right choice as far as the bedroom goes... then again she may completely change her mind and not marry at all and just be an independent woman. as far as men go.. they want to be the first but they also want a woman to take control in the bedroom and if a woman hadn't been with anyone else Pryor to him then she is really going to have a problem keeping the man intrigued in the bedroom.. How do you think men learn to be really good in bed... they all learned it from an older woman...

2006-12-27 16:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0 1

I think you should save yourself for marriage. I gave my virginity away at 14 and I felt so bad. That is the one thing you can never get back!

2006-12-27 16:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ariel 5 · 0 1

I sure hope so. Most women are what they call "used goods". If you save yourself for marriage, it means you really respect yourself and want the person you marry to do the same. Sex does not need to come with a handbook. We know where everything goes and if two people engage for the first time - the curiosity will naturally guide them.

2006-12-27 16:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by think about it 1 · 1 1

virginity doesn't generally makes a woman better. but it does show self respect and dignity. in addition to the dangerous disease you could get by having sex these days it is always better to save yourself for marraige. i mean lots of people out there decide to do it because they think they've found The One or because they don't want to be the only virgin in the crowd. but waiting is definitely worth it. and because it's mainly females who'd rather wait, i also think it's better if guys would wait too. its not like being a guy virgin is strange though it is rare in todays society. having pre-marital sex used to be uncommon but nowadays its just like spending your leisure time. however only you can decide whether to wait or not...

i know im gonna.... :)

2006-12-28 03:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by anonymously-unknown 3 · 1 0

personally i am attracted to a girl more if she doesn't have sex. it doesn't matter to me if she is a virgin or not.. i mean i would like for my future wife to remain a virgin but ultimately i care more about her position in the present more than the past. i dont believe in "saving yourself for marriage" i do not have sex or do anything more than makeout however my reasoning is not to save myself for my wife. to be honest if i told my future wife i had sex i'm sorry i'd expect her to either forgive me or to tell me she did also. i mean i find it hard to believe that i would marry someone who couldnt forgive something i have done in the past. i do not have sex because i know that the celibate life pleases God most. i know that if i did have sex outside of marriage i would have to account for that choice somewhere along the line. i know that when its all said and done i only want to have sex with one person... my wife. so the short answer to your question would be virginity does not make a woman better however if i see a young lady who does not have sex (but may have in the past) because she has a strong faith then that is the most attractive thing to me. basically you cant change the past and i'm not worthy to judge

2006-12-27 16:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0 0

Virginity doesn't make a woman better. Saving yourself until marriage is a personal choice and must be respected by others.
If it's worth it to you, then more power to you. Whatever your reasons and it can be more than one, good for you! These are your values in life and you shouldn't have to compromise for anyone.

2006-12-27 16:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by artutina 4 · 0 1

well...i think it would be better if both partners were virgins when they are married. It is proven that only 20% of people are aren't virgins when married, have their marriages survive. But 80% of people who are married virgins have their marriages survive. It would be better to save your virginity, but it doesn't make you a better or worse person.

2006-12-27 16:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by Ladie Alicia 3 · 1 0

Hey!!! I commend people who can hold out until marriage. I lost my virginity at 24 and now I'm 32. I wish that I had kept my virginity. The guys may think you're crazy, but it's peace of mind AND once you lose it, you can't get it back.

2006-12-27 16:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by chokolaite_cutie 3 · 1 0

Virginity is a marginally arguable difficulty those days. on the single hand there are females who're embarrassed that they are nevertheless virgins, and prefer to get rid of their virginity, and on the different hand there are nevertheless men who wish their better halves to be virgins and it is so significant to them. i'm no longer a guy, so i won't be able to respond to the 1st question. yet what i think of is that we would desire to constantly settle for ourselves (us females) as we are and we would desire to constantly be generally happening in turn through the guy who loves as we are. Human could make blunders... the previous will proceed to be the previous... that's little need to attempt digging the previous... little need feeling to blame or embarrassed... each thing has a beginning and the start does not inevitably advise continuously... to appreciate the custom of virginity and why it concerns, enable's check out Sigmund Freud's rationalization. Freud, on the start of "The Taboo of Virginity", states right here: "The call for that a woman shall no longer deliver to her marriage with a particular guy any memory of sexual family members with yet another is, certainly, no longer something different than a logical continuation of the suitable of unique possession of a woman, which types the essence of monogamy, the extension of this monopoly to conceal the previous." "Whoever is the 1st to fulfill a virgin's prefer for romance, long and laboriously held in verify, and who in doing so overcomes the resistances that have been equipped up in her during the impacts of her milieu and coaching, it is the guy she would be able to take right into an prolonged-lasting dating, the possibility of that may not in any respect returned be open to the different guy." "This journey creates a state of bondage in the lady which ensures that possession of her shall proceed undisturbed and makes her able to stand as much as new impressions and enticements from outdoors."

2016-12-15 09:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

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