What do you guys think, my fiance looks at porn regularly. I think it is disrespectful to our relationship.?

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thanks for your answers...i forgot to add, our sex life sucks. we only do it like once or twice a week and when i confront him of the lack, he argues, thats the average that most couples do it...who cares about OTHER couples...geeez. anyway, and about the maybe trying something new with him like roleplay, etc...he's not interested...go figure...he prefers porn over me. trust me, i have suggested the above things but no go. it is when i leave the house or when he is out of town that he does this. I told him then fine, i will look at naked guy porn behind your back. He argus that I am weird because it is not "normal" for girls to want to do that...yea right...stupid

Answer 1

Have you told him that? Has he gave you the "Well its my life and what I want to do"speech. There's only two ways to conquer that problem. Compromise or Ultimadum. When it comes to compromise you need to talk come to an understanding...What arent you doing that he wants to see more of. What does he get out of porn that he doesnt get out of you? Should you expermient more? Try out toys? Finding out what he wants out of a relationship is also another way to find out what you can get out of him sexually. Maybe even watch exotic films together and roleplay. exotic films are diff from porn. Something like a role play my seem to be helpful. Ask him to revert to those rather than porn. Talk about! Good Luck!

Answer 2

I think the problem is that you are not satisfied sexually, and he doesn't care, he is just taking care of his own needs with porn, and leaving you be for a week. And i don't think that he feels this is a problem. He has probably been brought up thinking that porn is okay, and not big deal. Which it usally isn't if it is every once in a while, and their partner is okay with it, and when it is NOT interfering with your sex life. My boyfriend used to look at porn a lot, and the same thing happened, we hardly ever had sex. To me a week is also a long time. And i also tried to look at guy porn on my own to make him jealous, and it also did not work. So i sat him down, and we discussed it. It took a long time, and a lot of arguing. But we decided that because this was such a big issue to me, and it was making me uncomfortable, and i felt disrespected that it was best for our relationship if he just stopped all together. I know you said you've tried a lot of the suggestions, and i did too. It took a lot of time and talking. But we bought a video camera and we make our own videos and pictures. Since then he hasn't watched porn (that i have found anyways) and our sex life is a LOT better. His favorite part is being the director. And now i don't have to worry about what i am going to find on the computer when i get home, and i won't be left lonely for a week. Good Luck, i hope this helps. If not, maybe try going to couples counseling.

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Answer 4

Uh yeah. Sounds like he has some issues. If its a problem now what will happen if you marry this guy? Will it be worth the aggravation? He probably won't change unless he wants to, and it could cause more problems and resentments later. He should respect you and your wishes.Next he will probably want you to also look at porn with him.Work this out before you marry.

Answer 5

Absolutely not a bad thing. Guys have our urges, and we need to do stuff to control ourselves. Think of it this way, it's either porn 5 or 6 days a week, or he is coming after you 2-3 times a day.

Answer 6

right this is the deal, it comes all the way down to how lots do you like her and choose for her on your existence? It has come to the factor the place it incredibly is the porn, or her. you pick for. Granted you've been gazing the porn once you met her, and doubtless she went alongside with it with the aid of fact she did no longer choose for to lose you, even nonetheless it for sure has substitute into greater of a issue. some human beings think of that they should no longer substitute themselves for others, they think of "take it or leave it". Now if this have been something approximately your visual charm (nostril too vast, eyes too dark,etc) then confident, she'd in simple terms ought to handle it or leave you. i does no longer get plastic surgical operation with the aid of fact somebody did no longer like my nostril. even nonetheless this is barely porn. it incredibly is finding at different women bare, getting off to different women. this is cheating. in case you have not got an habit, then in simple terms give up. in case you won't be able to give up, you're addicted, era. Now in case you do no longer choose for to give up, then this is yet another tale. tell her that, undeniable and easy, and enable her settle on what she needs to do. it incredibly is extremely as much as you and lower back, how lots you pick for this lady on your existence. this is unquestionably an common restoration. supply up with the porn and in case you won't be able to, then get help.

Answer 7

i dont really care if my guy watches porn. I like to watch it too. sometimes with him, and sometimes when he's not there. It can be a problem if the only way he can get turned on is by watching porn

Answer 8

Ok I would say most guys do this from time to time, but if you think it is too much than talk to him. I don't think he is doing it to be disrespectful, I think it has become a bad habit. I would sit down and tell him how you feel and ask him to stop. But, just in case, if he refuses to stop or says he will , but doesn't, is it a deal breaker? Would you break up? Be prepared for that.

Good Luck

Answer 9

Then tell him! Who knows...it could put a little spark in your relationship if he sees something that turns him on. You might want to talk to him about it and see why he looks at. There might be something missing that you could do to fill the void and fix the reason that he is looking at it.

Answer 10

It's not disrespectful... whether everybody will admit it or not, people like to watch other people have sex. And just because he/she watches it doesn't mean that they love you any less or anything. Instead of feeling left out and disrespected, watch it with him/her and see what all the fuss is about... :)