My grandmother seemed like the only one in the world who cared. Im a 15 year old guy. But she recently passed away. I basically lived with her over the summer cause my parents weren't treating me as well as i should have. They got my brother everything and me nothing. So she took me in and gave me everything. She was a saviour. it felt like she was the only one who understood me. She treated all my grielfriends like they were her children, everyne loved her.
But on may 31st of last year, I came home to her house to noting but chaos. I was told what happened and i could feel myself being ripped apart. It took a month before i even left my house, my parents even started tratin me right. I've lost alt of weight. I'm still torn up from it. But I know shes with me. What can i do to feel better!?
2006-12-27 16:29:53 · 10 answers · asked by John G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I so sorry to hear about your grandmother god bless her. Try to think about the good things she did for you and try to find someone that remind you of her
2006-12-27 16:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Beverly M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grieving process can be long, and it is very difficult to complete it on your own. A counselor would be very helpful for you. Not only do they provide a lot of support, but they can give you the tools you need to overcome the grief.
I'm sorry about your loss. I'm sure the grief is overwhelming. try thinking of the good times you spent with her, and all the wonderful things she did for you. Perhaps you can do something to honor her memory, like volunteer somewhere. DId she have a fondness for animals? Volunteer at an animal shelter. Furry friends often help accelerate the grieving process. Did she like kids? Maybe you could volunteer at a local YMCA. Again, contact a counselor that you can meet with on a regular basis. It could even be a school counselor. You will be able to get through this.
Take care!
2006-12-27 16:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not unusual to still grieve someone you love for a long period of time. I would suggest you call a teen hot line and get a recommendation for a support group for teens who have lost someone special to them. It is important to be able to talk about this and not feel alone. My heart goes out to you. All the words and good intentions of people don't help, I know, but your grandma would not want you to stop living. You need to move forward and make her proud. Another thing that may help is to volunteer at a senior citizens club or home. Being with older people will help them and yourself.
2006-12-27 16:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my Adeline's. i think what you i doing is bravely hurting your grandny cause you being sad and losing weigh are not what she wanted for you, she wanted the best for you. you said it she's with you so why don't you start believing she's with you by doing the thinks you use to be when she was with you in the physical. she wents you to be happy. the only way you can stop it is stop being selfish lying around and making your grandny soul fell like she was not good enough. because she know she left you with something, that nothing can take away from you not even her death, you know what it is.
2006-12-27 18:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John,,
Very sorry for your loss…
Think of what your Grandma taught you-love-care-respect-honor- etc she gave you. Carry that with you always!! Your Grandma obviously wanted you to be happy, healthy, and have a great life, right? So even thou she’s not physically with you,, she none the less is still with you. So, she would expect and want you to continue forward and have a happy life. Honor her by doing exactly that.
Take care of yourself just as your Grandma taught you with her wonderful gift of love, care, respect, honor!!
2006-12-27 16:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find comfort in knowing she is with you.She is looking over you like a guardian angel.She is safe with Jesus.Someday you will see her again,and it will be a beautiful reunion,in the meantime,live a life that would make her proud in her memory.
2006-12-27 16:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no time limit on grief. each person deals with it in their own way. Try to think about the good things and the good memories associated with her but dont dwell on them. sometimes it helps to talk to someone you trust and respect. if you dont have someone try to talk to the school counselor. the pain of your loss will gradually decrease. it just takes time.
2006-12-27 16:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by katlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly your mom desires to get into some kind of social team the position she will be able to satisfy with women human beings her age and then she would have human beings to seek for suggestion from with. i'm confident there should be some kind of social gatherings for the elderly to satisfy some circumstances a week. possibly this kind she will be able to not seek for suggestion from with herself as a lot.
2016-12-01 06:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you can't stop, but you best believe that your grandmother is in a better place, and she does not want you to stop living your life, because if you do you will disappoint her more.
2006-12-27 16:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by heartbroken 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will always hurt really bad, but with time it will get easier. sweetheart i think you should talk to your parents about going to counseling it really helps and it seems you are taking it really bad. maybe you should try talking more about the good memories than remembering the bad.
2006-12-27 16:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by misti m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋