i'd like to hear from men: what determines a womens worth?

Question

i was in a relationship were he thought my finanial contrabution was paramont to my worth-i'm no longer with him, but i'm not sure what a genuine man values.

Answer 1

Glad to hear that your no longer with him. Relationships are about equality, the other partner earning more money then the other, doesn't matter. Its what you bring to the relationship that counts. Being in a loving relationship, working together is priceless anyway.

Reality is that the majority of women in the UK earn less then men. However how much would it cost if we we to pay the national minimum wage to women who look after the house, the kids, do the shopping, cleaning etc? As a country we could not afford to. I'll put my hand up and admit that my partner does most of the cooking, cleaning and she holds down a full time job. And she manages to look absolutely gorgeous every day

Answer 2

1 First n foremost - good in bed - it's harsh but if you are fantastic at ..... you can get away with a huge amount of downside in other areas!!!
2. Also harsh - Good looks - again poor as a churchmouse but good at 1and good looking your straight into a long term relationship with most fellas
3. That good old stalwart " a good sense of Humour " - the fall back of most of us who can't shine in both Nos. 1 & 2 if you can tell a good story and be entertaining most fella's will buy you a drink / meal and put up with a lot if you are fun to come home to...
4. Money always good to have, but some do and some don't and that's just how it goes - If he kicks you out 'cos you ain't got none - well a friend in need is a friend in deed - if they won't stand by you when the chips are down - get rid or " Ram it you shallow barsteward" - as some might say!!!

Good Luck Dave

Answer 3

Well I've been married to the same woman for forty six years so I guess I'm in a position to know.

1. To love and be loved in return.
2. To be there when I need you. You don't have to fix my problems, just support me as I will support you.
3. To be a good Mum, something which involves discipline as well as love.
4. To have the same interests as me - not all of them but quite a few.
5. Committment. A long term relationship needs committment from both. The determination to weather the storms as well as enjoy the good times.
6. (And perhaps the most important.) To be able to cook well. I'm not being flippant. Good food, well cooked keeps us alive and healthy. It cements a relationship. Passion is wonderful - cooking lasts!

I hope you find a man who will value you for who you are and that you will find a relationship which brings you as much love and satisfaction as mine has.

Answer 4

Honesty and integrity have to come high up. Mutual understanding and acceptance of who each person is. No, it's not about financial contribution. I have a colleague who constantly bemoans the lack of contribution from his partner. It's eating away at him and makes for a sad relationship. I suspect that this issue clouds other more serious issues in the relationship.

Good luck in the future and find a man who loves you for who you are and not what you're worth.

Answer 5

Money has nothing to do with the value of a sincere relationship. Trust comes first and foremost. Good conversation. Respect for each others space (varies between couples). Similar goals in life. And find someone who isn't as shallow as stewart_r....

Answer 6

We want someone that we will never have to worry about cheating on us. If she is nice to us and cares we dont need much else. She can talk to much or be dumb as mudd but if we know she is ours and going to stay ours we will take good care of them

Most guys would rather have an average looking, stupid girl thats caring and loyal then a smart, pretty girl thats a real *****

Answer 7

Love loyalty for better or for worse money doesn't come into it. If I met a lady with only the clothes she stood up in, If she was honest genuine faithfull loving and caring then I would be the same to her.

Answer 8

what makes a person valuable is their ability to accept others for who they are, faults, shortcommings and all. we all want to feel accepted unconditionally, the way God accepts us. what makes a man or woman a good marriage prospect is their willingness to see their faults and make changes, not expect the other person to change. they should be goal oriented and moving ahead in life. it is more important to them to contribute to your happiness than their own cause they have learned that real joy comes from making others feel loved, not in feeling loved. Jesus said if you will try to keep your life you will lose it, but if you give up your life, you will find it. your ex obviously had fears involving money, or not having enough. A man wants someone to appreciate him and help him to feel appreciated for taking care of her and supplying for her. someone on his arm. someone that doesn't look at every guy that walks by. someone who will let him make her feel special. I recommend a book by Cloud/Townsend called "Boundaries in dating".This will really, really help you in your search. They also have a book called, "avoiding Mr. Wrong". most christian book stores have these books. also go to www.newlife.com

Answer 9

no matter what guy it is he deep down inside wants to be in control of the relationship. Guys are just looking for somebody they can talk to who will listen to them but acuatlly remmember them. and regardless any real man does not want a 50 50 relationship, guy needs to feel in control.

Answer 10

I personally dont think you can put a "value" on a person. and if you could then i think we would all have the same worth. ya know, when it comes to the big man upstairs.