I have been in love with this boy since the 8th grade I am know 18 and he's 20. We never went out but we do speak.I really dont care if we dont go out but I still want him to take my virginity. he's the only person who I have strong feelings for, I care for him so much and he's the only reason why Im still a virgin because I dont want anybody else to take my virginity but him. Should I or should'nt I do it. Please help
2006-12-27 16:21:47 · 13 answers · asked by Beverly M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let your heart be your guide here. If he has asked you out and you want to go then do it...
Sex was given to us to have fun. If you are ready and you say you want this guy to take your virginity then do it...but don't think about it if you are not ready to loose it.
I do not believe in this silliness of "Abstinence until married" crap! It has been shown too many times that those who do have a higher failed marriage rate and most of the time have a higher STD rate because of a lack of knowledge. I am not saying this is you but just to let you know if you happen to be.
2006-12-27 16:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, wait for someone YOU care about who ALSO cares about you deeply. I'm not so much into the whole "piece of paper" (marriage) thing as I am into the whole "this is the love of my life" thing.
Bizarre but true................I fell in love with my cousin when I was 10 and he was 8............. yes, my FIRST COUSIN............we are now married and totally happy, best relationship I've ever had (my 3rd marriage). So don't think that the whole "8th grade" thing makes it a joke. I just think that the whole "having sex to prove something" deal is wrong.
Sex isn't everything. It's a wonderful part of a fulfillng relationship but I think when we are young (under 25) we put too much value on it. If I were you, I'd wait, and see how it goes. I can't even remember the reason I had sex with the guy I lost my virginity to except that I was "sick of him nagging me". I s that the memory you want?? GOOD LUCK, AND BEST WISHES
2006-12-28 00:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Avon Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!
It will be a lot more special if you do it with someone you are in a serious relationship with. I nearly gave my virginity away to this guy I liked in high school. I was also determined that no one else was worth giving it to (& we never went out either - we were just friends).
In the end, I thought long & hard about it & decided that we were better off as friends & that if I waited that long already, I could surely wait some more for the right guy.
Guess what? He came along & it was just wonderful!!!
2006-12-28 00:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by funkychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you are in love, not just because he's the only one you have some feelings for. Don't throw it away on someone who will probably walk all over afterwards. It should be with someone you truly care about. I'm not saying wait until marriage, but it should be special and you should never want to forget it.
2006-12-28 00:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by loza500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you like this guy, doesn't mean you should have sex with him. You both should have the same feelings for each other.(Which is more than like) It would make it that much more special. If he does not have the same feelings, don't have sex with him. Wait and that special someone will come. You'll know it's right because you won't have ask if it is the right thing to or not.
2006-12-28 00:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by dlr015 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give it up because if you do you will lose his interest. Men don't like things easy. Tease him until he wants to marry you or at least commit to you. Trust, your virginity is the only thing you have now that separates you from other females and it can only be given away once.
2006-12-28 00:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by TILAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call me old fashioned but shouldn't both of you be in love or at least in lust with each other. What are you planning to do, go up to him and say "take me I'm yours"? How about asking him out for coffee or to a movie or something and see if he is even interested in dating and establishing that kind of relationship.
2006-12-28 00:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should first be in love with that guy coz virginity is not something that you should give away so cheaply and if its gone you cannot take it back so you may end up regretting and feeling used after you have lost your virginity. so think hard about it before making any decision
2006-12-28 05:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Ayati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can, but I would recommend not being so careless with it. This is your first time, it only happens once - you might regret it later when you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. You'll probably wish you had saved yourself for that person.
2006-12-28 00:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't have a ring on your finger, then you should not let him take your virginity. If you really love him that much and he loves you too, he should love you enough to get married first. =]
2006-12-28 00:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by FaerieWriter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋