Another thing, the man who murdered him will be tried in 2007. Because we are close knit family and the trial will be held in another state, no one from the family plans on attending. The loss was very devestating to my family, his fiancee and three small children. Is it wrong that there is no one from the family attending the trial?
2006-12-27 16:16:49 · 11 answers · asked by chokolaite_cutie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes you will eventually stop crying. My father was killed in '02 it was an on the job accident that happened due to negligence of the company...my entire family feels as if he were murdered.
I know it isn't the same, but I still feel your loss. Time will help with your pain.
I think it would be better if someone were to appear at the trial it will help you have some closure and to voice your feelings towards his killer at the sentencing.
You might want to see about some group counseling in your area for families of murdered victims....hearing other people and how they deal with their pain will be of some help to you.
You are in my prayers.
2006-12-27 16:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by MARY L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will always remember your brother with loving memories and probably will cry from time to time over the years. After all, you miss him and you are mad because he is gone. As for the trial, it is not wrong for no one from the family to be there. For some, it is important to attend the trial to support the victim and to see the murderer get convicted. For others, it is just too hard. Not knowing your family's financial status, I cannot determine if they are not going because of money or emotion. Talk to your family and see how they feel and try to resolve this within yourself. I am so sorry for your brother and your family. I have known a few families in your situation and it is hard to get past. Good luck.
2006-12-27 16:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister died in 2001 from cancer.....I still shed tears...especially with the holiday season, which was her favorite time of year. She was only 51 years old. The grieving isn't as often or intense as it used to be, now I think about her in a much happier way...I think of us growing up, thing we did, laughing, getting married, having kids and I remember her beautiful face...I talk to her sometimes and tell her how I wish she were here. In a way she is here, I know she watches over all of us...her and my Mom. The voilence of your brothers death and the fact that you and your family still don't have closure, makes the grieving process longer...it will get better once the trial is over. Just re- member that your brother is the families angel now, he is always around in spirit and I'm sure he doesn't want all of you to be sad all the time. I don't think it is necessary to go to the trial, it would only make it harder on everyone. If the family wants to know whats happening at the trial, maybe you could send a represent ative, someone who would be willing to go for you, a lawyer, clergy or family friend maybe. I will pray for you and your family. I hope you find some peace soon.
2006-12-27 16:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by klouise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will stop crying as much as you are now. It is very hard. I lost my mother 13 years ago. I still cry but not as much. Try to remember the good times you had together. When you lose a loved one it is very hard to accept. No it is not wrong for anyone not wanting to go to the trial. It is and will be very hard on the family. But on the same token you want to make sure that justice is done, and he gets what he deserves. Keep the faith, keep praying, your brother is watching you. And I am pretty sure that he doesn't want to see you cry all the time. Just pray about it. God will help you heal inside.
2006-12-27 16:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Andie F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about your brother's being murdered, and about the sad feelings you are having. Of course you miss him a lot. These feelings really will get better with time, but maybe you can call your local hospital to find a grief support group. Some cities even have support groups specifically for the families of murdered people, and I think either of these would really help you.
2006-12-27 16:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the pain will never go away but life will get a little easier with time, just make sure you share your feelings that helps the pain. keep the memories in your life don't try to run from it, put his pictures on the wall and talk to him everyday. trust me i lost my father in 2000 and my son in 2001. My father was also murdered me and my family went to the trial to get justice for him. we all wrote personal letters telling what that person on trial did to are family,taking away an important piece of our family. It helped us with closure.
2006-12-27 16:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by misti m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's not wrong and it's not right being in a way buy going to the trail they will know and except that this person took this man life they loved so much. when they looked at him they my probably see him again killing your brother all over again it's hard to look at some one who take away something you lover so much.
2006-12-27 18:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isnt that wrong it might be that they miss him too much that they cant take any more pain just tell your family how you feel and then maybe they will decide to go to support your brother and you. you might never stop crying but just think would your brother want you to cry for him and be sad or would he want you to remember him and never forget he loves you?
2006-12-27 16:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IM SOR SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS,, I KNOW WHAT YOU
ARE GOUNG THOUGHT MY GRANDFATHER WAS MURDERED, AND WE COULD NOT GO TO THE TRAIL.
BUT IT WILL GET BETTER FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
IT JUST TAKE TIME TO HEAL THE WOUNDS OF LOSING
SOMEONE YOU LOVE. BUT IT NOT WRONG AT ALL, HE
KNOW THAT YOU ARE WITH HIM AND WILL ALLWAY BE.
I SURE THAT THE LAWYER WILL KEEP THE FAMILY
WITH THE DETAIL OF THE TRAIL. GOOD LUCK TO YOU
AND YOUR FAMILY. I HOPE THAT THE MAN THAT DID
THIS GET WHAT COMING TO HIM.
2006-12-27 16:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am very very sorry for your loss.i hope and pray that you are in therapy.
somebody should represent your brother in the courtroom as that "humanizes" your brother to the jury during the trial.i believe that if you cannot afford to be there ..there are victims advocate groups that help with your expenses to put you in the court room.
2006-12-27 17:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋