Ok there is this guy that me and him are friends and we both like ecother but he is worried about what our guy friends will think about me and him to get together.He shows his feelings when no one looks and but when his friends ask him if he likes me he just stays quiet.I am confused and worried about what he will do or say if one of our friends teases him about when he kissed me...he might hide his feelings forever.What should I do PLZ I need much HELP.
2006-12-27 16:14:36 · 10 answers · asked by Julia M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I assume from your question that you are quite young. I know from personal experience that these things don't work unless both people are totally committed to the relationship. Your guy sounds wishy-washy and like he's affected by "peer pressure" and it is unfortunate. He needs to realize for himself that it doesn't matter what his friends think. All friends tease but honestly if he's all secretive that is no grounds for a healthy relationship. Just see how it goes... don't try to pressure him to do anything... let him come to you. You deserve someone who is committed to you, and doesn't worry about his friends teasing him. Why do they tease him? Maybe they're jealous? Maybe they're very young? All I know is you shouldn't have to put up with it. If he truly wants you, he'll come around.
2006-12-27 16:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one of the main factors is his age. Some guys (and girls alike) are just uncomfortable with the concept of relationships at younger ages. Not really the concept itself, because it sounds like he'd love to have a relationship, but more like he's uncomfortable with his peers knowing he wants or is in a relationship. If this is a case then there really is no quick-fix solution rather than to just give him your unconditional love and support, and over time he should become more and more comfortable with the situation. And even if you are dealing with a guy of an older age group, than the answer doesn't vary much. You can't try to force him into comfort, it doesn't work. You just need to support him and let him find it with your help.
I hope this has been somewhat helpful, the best of luck to you and your guy-friend!
2006-12-28 00:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I myself was in this position not too long ago. Well I'll tell you what I know, when we never got together where people knew I lost interest in him. He always kept quiet about us and I guess I never wanted it that way and eventually got tired of it. If you really like this guy and he really likes you it doesn't matter what his friends do or say because you have each other.
2006-12-28 00:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Hellfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey my name is julia 2, he sounds like me! i have a twin brother and i hang out w his friends. i just recently started dating one of his friends(he has a twin) and our moms r really good friends. bc my family and friends r around it makes dating a little awquard. im pretty confused about what to do even though i think he is the cutest nicest boy ever so its not u its prob just a little issue he needs time to work out. just be sweet to him and talk to him if things dont get better. i know just what ur going through but im the opposite but it stresses me out 2.
best of luck
2006-12-28 00:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is worried about what his friends might think about his choice of partner, he is clearly too immature for a relationship. Leave him to finish his growing up, and find yourself someone who already has.
2006-12-28 00:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh! your explanation was not clear but i can understand some of it!!!!!it"s really true that he like you or just wanna to have some fun with you?i think if he dont want to show his feeling with other people why should you date with him???but it's okay dear just give him some time to thinked about your relationship maybe he will showed his feeling about you to other people he might not ready with his relationship with you... ok..
2006-12-28 00:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by Rei hatsumi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk to this guy and see what he wants to do and make it clear to him that you dont want him to be ashamed of you or anything when his mates are around and that if he likes you then why doesnt he show it around others
2006-12-28 00:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by ChIkEtA GiRlS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all this guy should not be ashamed of your relationship. he should be proud that he has you. i think your guy friends are just jealous because they do not have a relationship. if that doesn't work, then try to date by yourselves and try to talk to him about his shyness. tell him to flaunt your relationship and do not hide it. there is nothing to be ashamed of in the first place
2006-12-28 00:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Karl G. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make him feel comfortable around you, and tell him that it is alright to express his feeling while others are around
2006-12-28 00:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are worried about what his friends think then you should talk to your boy about them. if they make fun you you 2 then maybe they are not HiS real friends. you shouldn't have to care wat other people think of your relationships.
2006-12-28 00:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋