So I started dating this guy around the end of October, beginning of November. He was the one that pursued me initially. I, at the time, was going on a downward spiral of craziness, which I have gotten through. The guy I am dating is 14 years older than me, never married, and no kids. I am in my mid-twenties and I am currently building my career. Things were going great for the past two months. He would come over to hang out, we would go on nice dates to dinner and the movies. I thought everything was going well until a couple weeks ago, when I had my college graduation. Now he no longer calls me, and I have to initiate the communication. He has told me that my drinking bothers him, mind you I don't drink that much in the first place. The last straw was when we where hanging out and he started watching Cinemax with scantally clad women and I felt that there's a hot female right here and you want to watch barely clothed women on the tv. What do you think about this situation?
2006-12-27 16:00:38 · 3 answers · asked by Rainbowstarz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, I realize this, I am just trying to have fun. At first, I was blowing this guy off. Because I knew he used to be a womanizer, because he is a bigwig in the music scene where I live. Then I was in a situation where I was carless for a couple months and had to rely on rides, so we started spending so much time together. Then, my feelings came in and I don't think he can handle it, I guess he will be the forever bachelor. I am dating other men right now, but feel so much for this guy. I dunno.
2006-12-27 16:09:23 · update #1
sorry to say, but he is behaving passive-aggressively, and looking for a way to dump you. he's probably hoping you'll get the clue w/o him having to say or do anything outright. you deserve to be treated better than this. i think he's way too old for you too. as you stated, you're building your career...you're in a personal growth phase in your life. he probably isn't. you'll find someone who's on the same wave-length you are, just hang in there and do what you need to in order to build a good foundation for your life. very best of luck to you. i wish you a happy and prosperous new year!!
2006-12-27 16:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by pirate00girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally in agreement with Boggle here. He's much older than you are and in time you'll find someone who is your age that suits you just fine one that says you don't drink too much and someone who doesn't watch that type of tv or video..ew!
2006-12-28 00:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by CandiApple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a lot of motivation to dump this guy. Find someone closer to your own age. How would like to be dealing with all his medical problems in another 10 years?
2006-12-28 00:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋