it coz i really get mad...sometimes i would think that i want to break up with him but i cant....what can i do? please help me
2006-12-27 15:57:40 · 12 answers · asked by grr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love him you would accept him as he is, drinking and all. If he treats you good and does not get out of line when he drinks, whats the big deal about him having a drink occasionally? Its harmless. Just like you have habits so does he. Either you accept his and not try to change him or leave him if you absolutely cannot tolerate it. You have to decided if you can live with his occassional drinking, If this is his only "problem" that you cant tolerate then you may be losing a great guy for a silly reason.
2006-12-27 16:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much does he drink? If he's getting drunk then I can understand you not liking it, but if he's just having a couple of drinks and this bothers you then I think you might have some issues with alcohol.
My ex wife didn't use to like me drinking even one beer, saying she didn't like the beer breath, she got over it in the end, (although we've now split up, but for other reasons).
After a hard day at work I find one drink in the evening a perfect way to relax, it takes away your stresses and releases all the muscle tension (kind of like a hot bath or a good massage).
2006-12-27 20:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by pantocool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay to get upset. I mean if he gets abusive then it totally needs to stop. If he just becomes idiotic after drinking and starts hicupping and makes a fool of himself in public or something its understandable that you would get a bit irritated and upset. Maybe if you try talking him out of drinking. Drinking beer/whiskey is not a necessity and if he has to quit it to make the relationship work it is a sacrifice he has to be willing to make. Since it is ocassionaly I guess there is no harm, but its up to you and how you feel about it. If you have to grin and bear it for once a month I say it isn't too bad but if it truly is bothering you tell him your feelings or ask if he can have a drink when you're not there around with him.
2006-12-27 16:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Steph*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he treat you when he drinks? Does he get stupid or does he get mean? There's a huge difference. If he's mean/violent/causing harm to others, then you have a reason to leave him. If he's just stupid (laughs a little too loud, yells at the umpires & referees on tv, etc), then let him be. You could be unhappy with him for other reasons and be making a bigger issue out of this than necessary.
Is it a religious belief or past relationship that makes you hate his drinking?
Examine why you feel this way (I've been there)--if he's not harming anyone in the process (and not getting behind the wheel), then don't make a big deal about it. He could also be using it as his way of acting out against you if he knows it bothers you.
2006-12-27 16:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Santa's elf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sound like this could be a religeous belief thing.
It is quite normal for a guy to drink occasionally but excess, say more than 4 or five pints a night would be excessive. Does he take you with him to the pub? Are you thinking that he could be unfaithful because of the influence of alcohol?
Don't try and impose your beliefs or principles on him. You knew what he was like before you married him.
2006-12-27 19:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Boscombe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that is making you mad? Does it effect you when he drinks ( does his mood change ) ? Is it effecting his health? What ever it is it's effecting you and this needs to be resolved.......tell him how you feel but not when he's been drinking and see what happens. He will probably be not even realise that you feel this way and will want to help. Good luck x
2006-12-27 21:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by December 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a criminal offense so which you may gain this yet technological awareness has shown that limited alcohol use is definitely stable for the physique. as long as you're conservative with it and below the supervision of a worried discern determine, I see no project in any respect. Please notice that i'm a non drinker (teetotaler) yet have not any project with others ingesting moderately.
2016-12-15 09:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt drink that much and just once in a while a beer or whiskey its ok , why would u bother ? is he getting rude or violent ? if not stay calm , no problem
2006-12-27 19:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how much he drinks - you don't tell us that. You say he drinks "occasionally", and if it is moderate amounts I really don't see anything to complain about. If he is getting himself blind drunk then perhaps there is a problem.
2006-12-27 16:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by Martin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, once in a blue moon is ok....as long as he doesn't get drunk...it's hard to give up a habit....just give him some time....le him explain himself n' understand him....on the same time, give him reasonable reasons for not allowing him to drink....only communication n' understanding could save this relationship...good luck
2006-12-27 17:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋