Should I break up with him or not?

Question

ive been with this guy for about a year on and off. andd hes 20 and im almost 17 nicest guy in the world my parents love him but he didnt graduate highschool and hes in adult ed trying to get his diploma.. he works at a pizza place. whenever we go out places i alwayss end up paying for both of us. i duno the whole thing just doesnt seem right.. im not sure what to do. im only 16 and i feel like i shouldnt be getting too serious with anyone cause i LOVE to have fun. im not sure if i should break up with him or not..

Answer 1

This is a toughy. Your parents like him, which is good. You probably like him (although your question makes that debatable). He is apparently a nice person. However I see your point; it is not correct that you should be providing for him, and you obviously don't want commitment yet. I say that perhaps you stick with him for now, wait and see what happens. If you find that you are still asking whether you should stay with him or not after a while, then perhaps you should break up with him. However if you change your mind, and he gets a better job or at least makes an attempt to pay for meals, then you can stay a bit longer. Sorry to say, but this really isn't my decision to make, I can only advise you how to make your decision.

Answer 2

If you not sure to get serious then dont. You are still young you shouldn't be rushing into anything for one. If this guy can't afford to pay for a meal then how will help you out financially? The world is not a game. You have to be serious. Maybe you should just take it slow because you want to have fun. But If you really like him and the only problem is his financial status then help him find a better job. Get the chief look for city/state/ and federal. Those jobs pay well.

Answer 3

You don't have to be with him if you don't want to. The real question is, do you want stay in the relationship. But it sounds to me like you've already made up your mind.... like you're looking to have fun not be in a serious relationship (after a year, it's serious). It also sounds like you've had a rocky relationship (being on & off) and have had to work through stuff. It may be time to let this relationship go. Just make sure it's for the right reasons or you'll regret it later. Good luck!

Answer 4

well, from experience, my bf and i are like u and urs:
im 17 and he's 20. he graduated high school, didnt go to college, but he had a good job. i go to high school, planning on college, and i work in the summer. we both contribute to keep our relationship; like he pays for teh movie tickets, i pay for the food. and we always love the time together.
too be honest, it doesnt seem like this guy is gonna do much for u, whether its having fun or having a possible "serious" relationship.
my opinion is to talk to him about it and if he doesnt see a problem or start pulling some of his weight in the relationship, id say dump him and move on.
if ur bf is depending on u for everything, move on girl.

Answer 5

Break up with him.
your still a minor and he's almost an adult.
you should have more fun now bec. when your his age you'll be worrying about alot more things.
you should still support him though... it's good for him that he wants a better future...but if i were at your postition i'd rather be friends with him.
he should be also a gentleman...you know trying to have an effort in paying up for a date...or you could split it 1/2 and1/2.

it's a plus that your parents like him but i think they would be happier if they truly saw your happy with a descent guy your age.as long as your out of harms way, with a good guy ( in parents standards),having harmless fun and enjoying your teens. it would better if you were'nt too serious with a guy right now bec. your still practically young and enjoy your relationships as they come...and if you Found THE ONE, settle down.
Right???

Answer 6

Sweetie, if he's 20 and you're only 16 you guys shouldn't even be dating, statutory rape and all that. And since he's 20 and has a job, he should be the one paying when you guys go out. I think he's using you as a meal ticket, because he knows that an older girl would never stand for that kind of treatment and, for all you know, he may have someone else on the side, who he's spending his money on. Please dump him, don't let him continue using you like that, he's not worth it, and you're too good for him.

Answer 7

well it doesn't sound like a steady relationship to begin with... it seems like you are getting caught up on a lot of the materialism of a relationship... how does he treat you is the better ? do you think that if you didn't have money he would do the same. you are young... but be wise there are not too many greats and he is at least trying to get his life together... you don't have to be so serious and you can have fun with him.

Answer 8

Since you are asking this question to begin with, you already have doubts about the relationship. I say you go with your gut. Your young and have a huge future ahead of you. Stay educated. Thats the big thing. You can have fun having a bright future without him. You already know he is not right for you or you would be not asking this question. Want me to be your voice of reason? Dump him. You can even say to him, "Hey" I am so glad your making your future better, but its time for me to make mine better. All the best to you and BYE BYE.

Answer 9

yeah you shouldnt be with him because in a relationship it should be 50/50 and what you dont understand is that at least he is trying to get himself together. if you focus on being with someone who can afford to take you out than that is the thing to do because if you arent able to stick through the hard times than he isnt the best person for you

Answer 10

If you are dating, the guy should pay, especially if he's older, and has his own form of income. Anyways, if you don't want to get serious, then don't.