Do I have a chance with him...?

Question

I met "Patrick" about 5 months ago, and we started talking as friends before going out on only 2 dates. Bad thing is that we got "intimate" the first time we went out (which was in the middle of the night). We did exactly the same thing the next time we dated. I wasn't really taking him serious and didn't have any feelings for him, that's why I did what I did, but I actually regret it with all my heart now. All we do it txt eachother everynow and then, but I try to make him understand that I really like him(in a serious way), and that I wish I had a serious relationship with him now. I know I did really bad by having done what I did on those first 2 dates, he probably thinks the worse of me. I don't know what I should tell him next time he invites me to go out with him because he will eventually expect the same from me. I want him to know that I'm not like he thinks I am, and that I could be a good girl for him. I want 2 start something serious with him, but i feel ashamed

Answer 1

Honesty is the best policy. Just because you started things off by sleeping with him doesn't mean that things can't be different. Tell him how you really feel and how you wish that you would have waited to have sex with him until you got to know him better. If he's looking for just sex you can either accept it or not. I say leave it alone because you will only fall deeper for this guy. I hope that things work out.

Answer 2

hi. you can try to meet him in the shopping centre or cafe when you all cant do the intimate thing and then from there you can start a normal conversation or chat with him about yourself like hobbies, likes and dislikes and etc and via versus. By doing these, you can improve the relationship by talking more and know each other more in depth. Or you can bring up to him that you meet up with him not just because of the intimate thing and if he give lots of excuses or reject the idea then you need to review his character and feelings towards you and think whether he is worth you loving him wholeheartedly not. All the best! Take care!

Answer 3

Hi,

You should invite him out and gauge how he acts. If you seem to be getting along, perhaps without scaring him (like being too serious) try to tell him how you do care for him, want to take things further, etc. You don't want to come off as stalkerish, obviously. This situation is really awkward, like girls who put out quickly usually aren't put into the "potential girlfriend" category... guys assume they're easy. I think you realize this. If he wants to sleep with you again DON'T even think about it. Just let him know you'd like to see how it goes but you think sleeping with him off the bat may not have been the best idea.... honestly I don't know how you should convey it without (a) insulting him (b) scaring him away but I think you need to first find out whether he thinks of you as more than a booty-call. Do you think he has any feelings for you?

This is salvageable but really it is awkward, I don't have solid advice like step-by-step... all I know is this is very delicate, like maybe he already judged you, but you never know. If you feel you can open up to him without scaring him, just be honest... tell him you never had feelings before... you were very in-the-moment on your first two dates, but you care about him and you're scared how to proceed... if he's interested he'll understand and maybe it'll work. You have to try.

Answer 4

FIRST OF ALL , YOU HAVE NOTHING TO ASHAMED OF . IT
TAKE TO TO TANGLE REMEMBER THAT, IF HE DID NOT
WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU THEN HE WOULD HAVE
MADE IT CLEAR. BUT YOU NEED TO JUST LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU WANT TO START SOMETHING WITH HIM. AND
GO FROM THERE. IF AND WHEN YOU SEE HIM STAND YOUR
GROUND ABOUT THIS. NO NO. NO., SEX. THAT THE
PROBLEMS THAT YOU MAY HAVE WITH HIM HE MAY NOT
SEE YOU AS ANYTHING BUT THAT, AND YOU NEED LET
HIM KNOW YOU AS A PERSON.

Answer 5

i think your fine just tell him what u just said...if you know him well enough...if not itll look kinda creepy and needy for someone he barely knows