these are grown men.With familys of their own.
2006-12-27 15:39:32 · 9 answers · asked by mawmaw6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Does this happen at your house, at theirs, when you are out with them, or all of the above? You may want to tell them that you are uncomfortable and upset when they are drinking and arguing, and that you are not going to serve alcohol anymore when they come to your home. If you are at their houses, you can excuse yourself as soon as the squabbling begins, saying, "I am going home now." Sorry you are going through this -- it is tough! But just stick to your message, firmly and without apology: "It upsets me when you drink and argue, and I don't want to be around that kind of behavior." Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-27 16:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then they're not really grown. Just walk away, you don't have to deal with that anymore. You raised them and now they have their own families. Tell them that you love them but it's not fair that they involve you in there problems.
2006-12-27 15:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by yleemoreno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a time when the sons are sober and together. Ask them to just listen without speaking until you are done. Tell them it makes you uncomfortable to be caught in the middle of their arguments and that you will not be participate in their game.
The next time one of them starts to draw you into one of their arguments, quietly leave the room. Do not allow yourself to be drawn into their trap. Do not take sides if one tries to enlist your help later. Simply refuse to be used in their game.
2006-12-27 16:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Meow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents are not referees, you love them both so make sure you don't get in the fights or they could turn on you thinking you are taking sides, just love them and support them, while one is away try talking to the other try to see if they want to confide in you for answers on how to forgive and forget don't worry your a mother the answer will come to you, it is a maternal instinct.
2006-12-27 15:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by misti m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm experiencing the same thing. Don't let them bother you and don't listen to them or anyone else that is excusing the the behavior towards you.
2006-12-28 01:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. I'm finding I have to do that myself lately. Good Luck HUGS
2006-12-27 15:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in your room, tell them your not going to let them do that to you and don't respond.
Every time they start tell them QUIT you've had enough and don't let it affect you anymore.
DON'T LET THEM DO THAT TO YOU ANYMORE !
2006-12-27 15:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Bridget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to grow up
2006-12-27 15:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by *you make me feel invisible* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be away of their matter and try to be away of them
2006-12-27 15:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kaustabh R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋