I love this girl who has a boyfriend that treats her like **** but shes too attached because of something that happened between them, how do i open her eyes for her to see that shes only getting hurt and that i can really make her happy?
2006-12-27 15:36:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THERE IS REALLY NOTHING YOU CAN DO BUT BE THERE
FOR HER IF YOU CAN.BUT AS FOR THE BOYFRIEND, ONLY
SHE CAN GET OUT OF IT, IF YOU CONTINUE TO PRESSURE
HER SHE MAY COME TO RESENT IT. SOMETIME THE BEST
THING TO BE THERE AND SAY NOTHING AND LET HER
SET WHAT GOING.
2006-12-27 15:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I am sure that you have deep feelings for this girl, but the one thing you can't do is show her what her boyfriend is doing to her. This is something that this girl will have to see for herself and until such time nothing you do or say will change or help that situation.
If nothing else doing such a thing could cause her to not like you even as a friend.
I suggest that you just be there for her as a friend and let her know that your there. Just letting this girl know that if she needs to talk, rant and rave, or just to simply have someone to listen to her will mean more than anything right now.
Whatever happened to make her feel so attached to this boyfriend must be something very deep and just between them. you may or may no know what that is. So with that being placed into this situation... I still suggest you sit back, let her know your there for her any time day or night and all she has to do is call.
In due time she will come around and wake up on her own. The fact here is that no one as I said can make another wake up it's up to that individual to get out of a relationship that is bad or where they are being treated badly.
Take care and remember just be there for her (for right now)
2006-12-27 15:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. If you force the issue right now you'll just end up being her rebound guy--not what you want to have happen. But you should help her work on her self esteem-that is what is keeping her attached to a worthless guy, not some incident (no matter what it was). She thinks that he is all she deserves--make her realize otherwise.
2006-12-27 15:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by Santa's elf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by tuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think that is really sweet that you care about her and want to get her out of that and my best suggestion is that you find it in your heart to tell her " Look it hurts me to see you like this he's hurting u and I don't want to see u like this I care for u and I want u in my life please let me take u away from this mess and make u happy, I am here for u and I like u alot please let me have u" and if u say something like that she would have to be stupid to not give u a chance! Good luck and God Bless You~ We need more men like you in this world!!! Luv ya lots
2006-12-27 15:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Minnieboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her tell her that you think that her boyfriend is not good enough for her and help her realize that the relationship shuld not be based on one moment then if they break up give at least a week and then talk to her about dating it is perfect
good luck
2006-12-27 15:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by toadluv87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He treats her bad in your eyes. However, if she's still with him, there must be something he is doing right.
To save yourself a lot of heartache (and beat downs), it may be best to leave this woman alone until she decides for herself to leave this jerk. She has to see the problem for herself.
2006-12-27 15:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel about her.N how badly she needs to get out of the relationship n start fresh with you.
2006-12-27 15:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by meek n humble spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel. teel her seeing this guy treat her like **** is killing you inside b/c you can treat abd love her better.
2006-12-27 15:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to let her discover it urself.just be ther to catch her when she fallsa.if you keep pushing her to try and see she may start to resent you.just be there.that all i got to say.
2006-12-27 15:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by wheres waldo? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋