i dont want him to look at me differently
2006-12-27 15:31:28 · 28 answers · asked by cookie monster! rawr! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, find out if he has similar feelings for you. You can find out by the eyes. And then, just ask him if you feel that he's actually head opver heels. And no, I can't describe the eyes thing. Trust me, you'll know.
2006-12-27 15:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sarab s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great thing this could be. Imagine, you have been friends first and now you might be in love. Do you have any idea how many songs have been written about this?
Anyway, you have to talk to him. Consider this something that you confide in with your best friend, but it's about him . . and it's serious. Here's a good guideline to follow in the conversation:
1. Affirm friendship - Say "No matter what happens, I want us to be friends forever"
2. Discuss your feelings - A. Love for him B. desire to not lose friendship.
3. Discuss his feelings about your feelings - (here's the hot part)
4. Discuss if you will act on the feelings - Agree to date or not to date. Maybe even kiss to decide . . . you know what they say about a kiss.
5. Reconfirm relationship - If dating, then confirm dating for now, friends forever. If not, then it was a great idea but just between you two.
No matter what happens, it should bring you two closer. I don't think it could possibly offend him.
He's probably a very lucky guy.
2006-12-27 15:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him to look at you differently, then don't tell him, because he will look at you differently once you do. Friendship is probably just about the most important step before a more intimate relationship unless it's one of those rare "love at first site" things. Sometimes having a relationship with someone can cost you their friendship if it doesn't work out. Are you willing to risk you freindship for whatever may happen? Happy New Year!!
2006-12-27 15:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by mld m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been the guy in this position before and it just sucks if you know the girl has something for you, and you have nothing for her, but you are obligated to care for her feelings. Get some nerve, suck it up and face the music. You could be pleasantly surprised or you could be devastated. Why should you have it any easier than guys do? That's exactly what guys face! He's going to see you differently, and the only choice you have is if after all this he's going to see you as an honest person or a pain in the a ss.
2006-12-27 15:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't play games. Don't do the whole he said she said thing by going through mutual friends. It can be long & drawn out & confusing. The only things you need to know are if he's free & if he's open to a new relationship. After that, just tell him all the reasons you appreciate him or why he's special to you and ask him if he's interested in something more. If he says no, at least he knows what you mean to him, and if he says yes, then woowhoo!
Be bold, be honest, he'll appreciate it. Good luck!
2006-12-27 15:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by roersu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
touch him more often... arm... leg... crotch... I mean... :)
but seriously...
you could just talk to him about it... start out by saying how great you think he is...
look at him a lot... then look away on purpose... he'll figure it out
now, getting him to like you BACK... that's another discussion. if he doesn't already like you in that way... you'll have to act differently or at least do something to get him to think in that way.
you could wear something different, put on some makeup and ask him if he likes it (if you wear makeup), talk about love/romance/hooking up (in general) with him (and then do the staring/looking away "embarassed" thing)... you could lean over him somehow and pause just long enough for it to not be a normal lean... haha... i'm serious
it's not possible for him not to look at you differently... unless he already knew you liked him before you act. if you're worried about him "looking at you differently" in a BAD way... well... sometimes it's a risk worth taking. if you don't get all stalkerish on him, don't act completely silly and like a different person... don't corner him and spill your lust all over him... as long as he is a person who likes you as a friend and has an understanding heart (regaurdless of whether or not he likes you back)... well, no worries. if he's not that sort of person... ?don't bother going after him. it would be a wasted effort in the long run.
good luck
2006-12-27 15:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by justwannaknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. you can try to hint him first before telling him straight in front of him. You can sms him and put words like dear, miss you and see what is his reaction and reply. Other than that you can ask him out alone without your friends around and see whether he is comfortable a not. From there, you can try to talk out to him. Never strike when you are not ready and when he didnt show any signs that he like you too because if that happens, you will feel embarrassed and i'm afraid he will avoid you. Take things slowly. All the best!
2006-12-27 15:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by star_dust 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and have a chat with him. Tell him how you feel, but also let him know that you won't be upset if his feelings are not the same as yours, and that it won't affect your friendship. Of course, this only works if you really mean it. You might be pleasantly surprised and find out he feels the same way, but has been afraid to say anything because he wasn't sure how you felt. Clear the air, and good luck.
2006-12-27 15:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by letsgetagripalready 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be straight out with him. Dont make yourself look weird. Go straight out with it. The worst he could say is he doesnt have feelings for you. But, you never know until you try. Its a 50% 50% chance. Give it a try.
2006-12-27 15:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your friend. Tell him your feelings are starting to go past the point of friendship and you would like to know how he feels about it as you would rather have his friendship than lose it because you want more.
2006-12-27 15:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋