Will he ever make it up to me after what happened?

Question

My ex bf was the one who dumped me, so I was really shocked when he told me that he wants to see me and "meet up". He called me, and planned the whole thing (a movie). I assumed there would be coffee afterwards since after one year I thought he wanted to really talk & catch up. He picked up, but he never opened any doors for me, he walked ahead of me, & after the movie he just drove me home. He never walked me to my door & just said "merry Christmas". He never tried to even hug me so I just shook his hand & said bye. I felt like trash after the date, he treated me bad, like s**t. He would open doors & walk me to my door when we were going out, but I thought he would be a gentlemen again cuz of all the effort he put in to set up this date, by calling & picking me up. I thought after the movie, we would have coffee and that he would say either 1) I want u back, or 2) I wanna be friends. I thought #2 is what he would say. Neither of this happened. WHY did he do that & treat me like that?

On the way home, I finally asked him why did he wanna meet up w/ me after all this time & he said 'u know just to hang out, I wanna see u every once in awhile'. He really meant, I wanna see u every year, on my terms & I'll treat u like this. I went home & decided that I don't even wanna see him once a yr & that I had to tell him this & how he treated me bad. So I went on msn aftre the date and I told him exactly how he made me feel. I said "You know, I honestly did wanna see u, & I did kinda miss u, & even though u'r a nice guy, after the way u treated me today, the way u rushed it, & the way u said bye in the car, we don't even need to see each other once a year, we should pretend like today was our final goodbye." He was shocked & kept saying sorry. I finally just said bye & logged out. Am I right or did I overreact? and should I fix it? By the way, when we were dating it never went past kissing cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage

Is he even bothered by this? I want him to feel guilty & hurt. Should I call him & say that I wanna end it on a good note? Will he ever call or contact me & really apologise? or do u think he will never talk to me again cuz I said goodbye forever?

Answer 1

Please don't waste your precious time analyzing him and his actions. I've been that person and it was such a waste of a year. I have an ex that my friends and I nicknamed 'boomerang boy'...he reappeared whenever I was just starting to like a new guy (he didn't know who I was dating, it was just poor timing on his part).
He wanted to know that there was someone who wanted him, even though he didn't want a relationship with me-he told me that repeatedly but it didn't sink in for awhile. The day that it did I blocked his email address, deleted his old emails, but kept his number in my phone so my caller ID could warn me not to answer.
At the same time I made sure I let a mutual friend know how happy I was with my new boyfriend--the one who is still my boyfriend and has never treated me like that.
And if he offers the 'let's be friends' routine, don't do it...it only keeps you hoping that he will change his ways--that you can convince him to like you if you're just cute enough, flirty enough, funny enough...you get it.
Save your time and energy for the guy who deserves you--and he's out there...but if you're obsessing about Mr Wrong he'll slip right past you.

Answer 2

Hello,
I suggest that you leave well enough alone hun. You've told him your feelings and how he made you feel on this horrible date. So dear let that be that and go on with your life.

There is no need in beating a dead horse with this. However if you feel that you want to end things on a good note then by all means do so, but for what? It seem like he has moved on and has no remorse for the way he behaved on your date.

Save your little typing fingers for someone who is worthy.. this joker is a rude creep and you deserve much better than that!

Thinking about this even more I wouldn't be surprised if he and some of his buddies made a bet to see if he could get you to go out with him again! I mean you never know what little boys will do these days.

Nevertheless stay away from him, your on exact track by telling him to leave you alone it's over don't call, don't message and don't ask you to go out with him again. If you see him out somewhere course be lady like and say hello and keep walking girl!! In due time he'll regret his bad behavior on that date!!

Good luck stay strong and have a wonderful, happy new year!!

Answer 3

You have already asked this question before, & I answered it before. In my earlier answer I said I thought he sent you clear signs that he now thought of you as a friend, not his woman, & he obviously wants to remain friends with you or he wouldn't be appologizing all over the place now.

So now I am wondering.

WHY ARE YOU AGONIZING OVER THIS SO MUCH?

If you want to put him in the past, THEN END IT!!!
If you want to keep the relationship with him going THEN DO THAT!!!
But you aren't managing to do both at the same time very well so choose one or the other.

I believe that the people who keep posting the same question over & over again are looking for answers but aren't ready to listen to any of the answers that are offered.

It's up to you!

Answer 4

You can't worry yourself with how you want him to feel. All you can do is make sure he never makes you feel as you did on the date. That means don't go out with him again, EVER. Be happy in the fact that now you see him as he really is, A JERK.

Answer 5

consider this your learning experience, and do not make the same mistake again. do not call him, if he calls you thank him for his interest and ask him to not call you anymore. you do not need the agrivation of trying to figure out what he means or wants, he is not you boyfriend, and therefor not your problem.

Answer 6

he was proably shy, he might have thought that if he did something wrong you will take it the wrong way that he didnt want you to or he didnt want to push it but to me it seems as if he was shy or didnt know what to say or do

Answer 7

you did the right thing.
leave it at that.
do not call, do not see him again.
if he calls just say i'm busy now and can't talk to you.
DO NOT SAY MORE!!!
you are done, you said all you had to say!!!
good luck!

Answer 8

Say no more, let this go and move on...