He is a bit over weight and is really tender hearted.
How should we handle it ?
2006-12-27 15:25:53 · 12 answers · asked by Bridget 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just make sure he's loved at home. Be sure he feels that he can talk to you whenever he needs to. Sometimes, life has to take its course and these experiences will help us learn in the future. I completely understand how he feels, just tell him to avoid people and maybe even defend himself verbally.
2006-12-28 10:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by sci-girl1492 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have him learn karate or some martial art. Every boy needs some physical gratification and even if he can't score any pts, he'll feel good knowing he's good at something.
The LAST thing you wanna do is make him suspicious of others by telling him how the other guy is a bad guy. His demeanor will become more obtrusive and others will perceive him as arrogant if he believes he can take that excuse. Instead, ask him if he did anything right in dealing with them. Becoming sociable and charismatic takes practice even for the best of us. A few jokes, some better posture, and speaking practice can help anyone out.
Speaking of which, if you don't wanna sign him up for karate, try singing lessons. They're just as enjoyable and he'll feel great about his new found talent.
2006-12-27 15:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mikey C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help him find something he is good at so he will not mind what other kids say. It is caring what other kids think that causes them to keep picking on the same kid over and over. Try out a few things - a sport, music lessons, kids' community theater, chess; he will show interest in SOMETHING and that will give him confidence, which in turn will deter others from picking on him. Plus, help him to make friends. If he has a friend or two around him he is less likely to be picked on. If he can't make friends at school then maybe you can invite a few boys over, one at a time, and he can get to know them one on one. If this does not seem likely, try to offer a service that the other kids or their parents will want. For instance, one mom I know had math tutoring for kids in her daughter's class, and would have a few over at a time, and of course would be so nice and fun and would serve the best snacks, and that helped her daughter to become more popular and accepted in the class. Maybe go to the park when other kids are there and start a game of softball or Frisbee or something. Near a holiday have a craft day at your house. [Oops, do boys do craft days? Maybe a Mother's Day craft...] Talk to your son about seeking out other kids that need friends. Tell him how wonderful it would be FOR THE OTHER CHILD if he would befriend them.
2006-12-27 15:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Kids are just going to be kids. Whether someone is overweight, or wears glasses, kids will always find a way to bully someone. All I can say is suck it up, because no one is really going to care. Not trying to be rude. I'm just saying that teachers and parents usually won't give a care unless your child is being hurt in a physical way. It's just the way things work. There really isn't anything you can do about it, but make sure your child knows that you love him.
2006-12-27 16:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Provide lots of love and support at home, and make sure he has a strong sense of who he is and plenty of activities to occupy his time while he's home so he's not thinking about it all the time. The best thing you can do is just be there for him, hold him when he cries, and make sure he knows he's loved. If he's really good at something, build him up. The more confidence he has now the better off he'll be as he ventures toward adulthood.
2006-12-27 15:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how old he is but , if you show him he is a fun kid no matter what he looks like then he will be ok . as for the over wait, my daughter is too ,and i go walking for myself and i ask her if she wants to go .she always goes with me .that way I'm not telling her she needs to walk and hurting her feelings. and we get time to talk about anything we want to talk about and she is loosing wait
2006-12-27 16:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 06 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help him to get healthy. Sign him up for a karate course. And then let him start kicking some a**.
2006-12-27 19:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Luann E, comfort him & let him know what his friends are doing is wrong. And they were never his friends in the first place. Show him how to seek out people (friends) that are going to accept him for being his self. God bless!!
2006-12-27 15:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by Beth C 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let him know his wieght doesn't matter to you and others around you. He needs his self esteem built up and family is a good place to start.
2006-12-27 15:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by mistyjlr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let him take up karate/ or such. they teach great things that will help your son besides how to fight... although being able to fight will come in handy later if kids still pick on him whenhe gets older
2006-12-27 18:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋