my friends tell me it is wrong but it makes me happy. i enjoy doing things for him and he treats me like a queen...
2006-12-27 15:25:24 · 24 answers · asked by carlalee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you truly think you are happy, don't listen to anyone else. You can do whatever you want to do. That's the power of being human.
It IS important to have at least one activity or hobby that you do on our own. As long as you give yourself time to partake in something that's just for you, there's nothing wrong with it if that is your choice.
Personally, I would not live my life like that because I don't feel that it's healthy to completely give up myself for someone else. That's been my experience, but maybe things are different for you.
2006-12-27 15:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nice to each other makes life just a WHOLE lot better, doesn't it?
The only time it's wrong to "spoil" your partner this way is if they take you for granted and don't give in return. That can make you start feeling bitter and resenting how nice you're being to him.
But as long as he's treating you like a queen, I say go for it! Consideration and thoughtfulness are among the most important parts of any relationship -- and they never, never get old. My wife still brings me a cup of coffee when I'm working, I still rub her feet at the end of the day, and we do lots of nice things for each other all the time, even after 27 years. It's part of what being a couple is all about -- caring for each other, making life better with each other than without.
2006-12-27 23:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
waiting on him hand and foot is not being treated like a queen. but you should do what makes you happy and if taking care of his every need makes you truly happy then you should do what your heart tells you. just don't let him take advantage of you and start to expect these things from you all the time. he should be willing to do the same for you.
2006-12-27 23:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by honeybear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is DOING for u too, then great. That means both of u enjoy treating each other with great care. But if by "he treats me like a queen" really only means he is with u, then ur headed for trouble. Of course any guy (or girl) will like bn waited on and will b nice to the "server" but if things r truly equal (meaning he really cares for u too, not just bcuz u wait on him) then he will wait on u too.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 23:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by •♦๑•TxRose•♦๑• 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not a thing wrong with treating your man like a king if he is treating you like a queen. Sounds like you have a good thing going for both of you. Not one sided, but a good healthy 50/50.
2006-12-27 23:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me an ideal relationship is where you put each other first. Sounds like you have a good thing going.
Friends are a WONDERFUL thing to have, but in the end we must each find our own way. I'm sure your friends mean well, but if you are genuinely happy in your relationship you may just have to smile and politely tell them that while you appreciate their input they just don't understand what you have. In any case, to each his or her own. Good luck!
2006-12-27 23:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a lot of guys always think that they are better and deserve everything done for them but maybe just for once guys should do something for the girl if you want to REALLY please him then have sex with him every night or whenever he wants wich will most likely be more then once a day!
2006-12-27 23:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Leni ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ready to make it a choice for the rest of your life with him, then go for it..But I would gear more towards middle ground because one day it may bother you and he will expect it, and that would be your fault for allowing it to happen. But if your happy do what you gotta do!
Good Luck
2006-12-27 23:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is good to you, spoil him! He deserves it for loving you, and if it also makes you happy for doing it then you are "killing two birds with one stone."
Even tho my ex was a.. uhm.. *bad word* It made me very happy to do every thing for him, until things got worse and I was mad at him then I would stop doing every thing for him and he got confused and started demanding it, so I told him no, and told him every thing I do is not because we are married, it is because I love you, and right now I am mad at you and you can get off ur lazy butt and do it yourself. lol. so keep that in mind!
2006-12-27 23:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is returning your good treatment and it makes you feel good then great however you don't want to create a situation where you will tire of treating him this way and try to change because then he will not take kindly to the change. also don't allow your kindness to be abused... make sure he isn't taking you for granted...
2006-12-27 23:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by lamaestra313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋