My boyfriend who i am absolutly in love with and want to marrie gets in these moods sometime where he is afraid that i am going to find someone else. He trusts me I know this cause i have asked him and i believe everything he tells me. I just don't know what to do. I know he loves me and i love him i just want to know what i have to do to convince him that i am not going to leave him. Please help.
2006-12-27 15:22:14 · 17 answers · asked by Laken Ace of Spades 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has a security problem. This could get worse with time if he doesn't find a way to get this under control. The only thing you can do is show him you can be trusted by acting trust worthy, in time, this should be enough. Good luck.
2006-12-27 15:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lori E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he's a bit insecure with your feelings for him. He must have been hurt pretty bad somewhere in the past and is afraid to trust completely. Talk to him more deeply about it. Ask him what it will take..........If he can't answer, then it's a problem that he must resolve within himself. You shouldn't have to put so much effort into this if you are considering marriage with this man. There needs to be a sense of trust in this relationship, not only said, but done. Good Luck!
2006-12-27 15:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to talk 2 him.
Tell him that u really love him. N he is the only person in ur life. U trust him n u know that he also trust u. He have full possession on u, ur life so there is no Question of leaving him. N tell ur all feelings abt him. N remember wen he is in easy or relax mood then talk 2 him.
2006-12-27 15:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he TRUST you so much than all you have to do is tell him. Now if you are the type to flirt with other men, he probably don't trust you as much as you think (with good reason), so stop flirting.
Other than that he is just an insecure person and nothing you say or do will change this thinking. So he need to improve his opinion of himself so he believes that he deserves your love (nothing you can do about that).
2006-12-27 15:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you can't do anything... I'm married to my wife for about a year already but she was my girlfriend for over 4 years... I am telling you i am a very jealous person... for that 5-6 years of relationship... i was very doubtful... very mad at everything... but still were together... just be patient with you boyfriend... someday he will overcome it or even forget about it... that's what happen to me... sometimes he will remember it but it will go away... just always show him that you love him and always make him the center of your life... the most important advice i could tell you is... avoid all your male friends... that's whats triggering the doubts and the thought of you will find someone else...
2006-12-27 15:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by MoNt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend gets like this. You just have to reassure him that he's the only one for you. Maybe just send him an extra sweet e-mail or text. It's just a passing funk for him, for the girlfriends this time can be like hell because he gets all quiet and pouty. He probably feels like your wonderful and that someday a guy that is much better than him (although you know that he is the best) will come along and steal your heart. It's normal I think actually. Good Luck to both of you and your future together.
2006-12-27 15:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing much you can do at this moment beside showing your love with your heart. With time he's going to gain more confident. I found a web site that has lots of articles about how to build up a good relationship with the love ones. I hope it can help you out. Good luck. ^.^
http://www.loveletterbox.com/love_advice_five_stages_of_partnership.htm
2006-12-27 15:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Rainy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should believe you. But I think he is worried because of the events constantly happening around us. many relationships started like that with many promises but ended up being fallen apart.
Try to be honest with him. Trust him more, and be more trustworthy. Marry if possible.
2006-12-27 15:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Legend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a guy will feel very insecure that you will find someone else, if he has had it happen to him before he met you. It isn't that he doesn't trust you.
2006-12-27 15:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously is insecure. Just be yourself with him. Telling him you love him and won't leave him must not be enough for him. His insecurity comes from within himself and there's not much else you can actually do than just continue showing him your love.
2006-12-27 15:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋