I have a crush no my friend and i told her which made her act really weird in front of me. She even started ignorin me sometimes. I feared that i may lose my friendship wit her so i told her that i was confused and i never really liked her. This made her cool down and now shes actin normal wit me again, but the thing is that i still like her. She claims to have a bf in the u.s who she met in an online game and she has never seen him in person bfore. My friends told me to focus on someone else until this guy lets go of her coz online relationships never work, but i wanna know if i did the right thing. Did i do the right thing?
2006-12-27 15:12:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im in grade 12 and shes in grade 11. We live in Canada by the way. Im guessin that her 'bf' is a loser who has to depend on someone online to get laid.
2006-12-27 15:13:12 · update #1
i have had that happen to me also. You did the right thing because her knowing that you liked her would have continued to strian the relationship. Just wait it out see what happens. In the mean time just focus on becoming really really good friends, that way the second the online relationship fails, you can seize the oppurtunity. Just a thought....maybe she was acting different because she liked you too and didn't want to admit it was just playing hard to get....just a thought.
2006-12-27 15:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Silent.K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going back and saying you're confused may backfire if (not "when") the online guy ever gets out of the picture. Though it may have saved your friendship now, it may have also cost you any chance of getting with her in the future. Don't worry about it too much, though. In the end, we want a true friend (and someone we can see in front of us) so you have an advantage. Good luck... and next time don't be so quick to back down! Fight for her a little, she'll like it :)
2006-12-27 23:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by roersu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, she's as much of a loser, since she's also online trying to find a boyfriend; two, you only have her word for it that this guy is her boyfriend, which could be a lie, especially since they've never even met; and three, you're online trying to figure out how to handle this so-called relationship by asking a bunch of strangers who really could care less about someone else's problems. I wouldn't be calling anybody a loser if I were you, you know, "those who live in glass houses...." and all that.
2006-12-27 23:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by letsgetagripalready 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you did do the right thing. Maybe she is not ready for you yet. sometimes online dating can be very emoitional. You don't know what he is saying to her to keep her focus on him and not anybody else. Some online relationships do not work and some do. Just be patient and be a good friend to her. She will come around.
2006-12-27 23:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by Andie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need her if she'd rather go out w/ a computer, but online bfs are perverted freaks!I hope she knows that! You did the right thing telling her how u felt but the wrong thing telling her u didn't mean it! If she acted like that then tell her that u value your friendship more than anyother feeling!
2006-12-27 23:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by Keira Mantia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldntve lied about not liiking her when u did. Now she'll get confused about what you mean too her.She might end up liking you. U r right about the online thing.I think that was a defensive thing to make u back off.
2006-12-27 23:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by jafsil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your feelings are not reciprocated by your friend then you must respect her wishes. Instead you will have to be content with being a true friend and true friends do not let their friends be duped by online lurkers. Can you be online with her when they chat? I think when the other guy knows you are around he may back off.
2006-12-27 23:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by Flab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. You did the right thing by telling her that you liked her but the wrong thing when you took it back. Your friend will have to accept that you like her...and she will if she is a true friend. Peoples feelings change all the time and if you admit that you like her and dont tkae it back, she might turn around and start to like you. You never no.
2006-12-27 23:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Social828 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you told her you were confused, she'll still know that you like her but at least you've covered your back. You're right, online relationships never work out. You've still got a chance.
2006-12-27 23:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Ty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u did the right thing because it is better to have gotten it off ur chest than to never have said anything. Never regret something u did, because u did it for a reason.
2006-12-27 23:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋