Okay.. so I used to like this guy but I'm really shy so I introduced my friend to him so she could help move things along a bit. Well the worst happened, and they ended up liking eachother and made out and I found out from an outside source. This sparked a big fight between my friend and I. In the end, her and I ended up being friends again, but as for the guy, I basically hate his guts (for various reasons). Now she still likes him and he still likes her and it really irritates me whenever she talks about him.. am I wrong for being irritated? I think I kind of feel like she's trying to rub it in my face that he liked her instead of me but I could be wrong..
2006-12-27 15:11:50 · 7 answers · asked by spontaneousishowiroll 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She did know that I liked him and most would agree it was a completely bitchy thing for her to do to take him for herself. I might have been wrong for not telling him myself, but that really has nothing to do with it anymore. I'm not jealous or anything, I'm just saying that if I were in her situation where the guy that I liked really hurt my friend (not just by kissing her, THERE ARE OTHER THINGS! I CANNOT EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH!), I think I would refrain from trying to start a relationship with him for atleast a little while. I know it's her right, but I feel that it's not the kind of thing a good friend would do.
2006-12-27 15:34:56 · update #1
Bah.. people will think what they want to.
2006-12-27 15:40:23 · update #2
I don't think your wrong. But if you forgive one you should forgive the other. he had no clue that you liked him, so he did what came nature to him when he began to like your friend. Now your friend on the other hand knew everything from the beginning and she should have came to you woman to woman and confused her feelings for him to you. And even though you say you hate him you sound as if you still may have some feelings for him. still this is the thing friends talk about their boyfriends and other stuff to each other and when you became her friend again you accepted that responsibility maybe you just were not ready yet.
2006-12-27 15:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Spelman Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lacy Lady totally has the correct answer here. There are countless stories of where someone tells their friend they like so and so and then the other two people get together. That's just kind of human nature i suppose for some people. So, don't make telling everyone that you like a person a habbit. Know who you can trust and who you cannot. In the same regard, also know that people make mistakes without meaning to. Love friendship and relationships are one of those things in which it happens most. You will learn to forgive those friends who do things of that nature over time. you will see that more people will do that than you think -- and it is not always intentional - so judge for yourself and get over the anger - be happy. Chances are if you are happy for the both of them, then you keep two friends, no? And remember, even though the company you keep is who you are in part, it also is a connection later on in life. don't hold grudges!
2006-12-27 15:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by CandiApple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you're completely wrong... maybe just a little, but mostly very normal...
Be happy for your friend, she's got a great man. Let her know that your heart is a little tender from the plan going awry. If she's worth keeping as a friend, she'll show a little more consideration for your feelings.
2006-12-27 15:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong for being irritated! if you introduced your friend to be your "wing man" she shouldn't have gone for him herself her job was to move things along as you put it! now if she didn't know about your intentions then that's a different situation.
2006-12-27 15:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by lamaestra313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't know you liked him and you got the two of them together than the only person you need to be irritated with is yourself. Sometimes you have to overcome shyness for things you want or you run the risks of this happening. Don't be mad at them for your mistake.
2006-12-27 15:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he had no idea you liked him.. no reason for you to be mad at her.... i mean if you didnt bother to tell him that you liked him cant blame him for his relationship with your friend.... he fell for someone else which so happened to be your friend.a true friend would just be happy that she has found someone to spend time with and hang out with. i think its a judgement call.. let the dude go.. if he doesnt feel that way about you.. let your friend at least have a guy that digs her.
2006-12-27 15:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by ~Raven~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
stop being selfish and be glad for your friend.
2006-12-27 15:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋