Scenario: You have a child from a previous marriage. Your spouse's family gave your child some very nice and very thoughtul Christmas gifts. You in turn had not given the relatives gifts from your child. You take your child to Dave and Busters Christmas evening. As the child is cashing in his or her coupons for items, your child decides to spend coupons on the people that gave him or her Christmas gifts. The child decides to do so because it was mentioned to the child that the family had gifts for him or her.
Do you let your child gift them the cheesy gifts from the Dave and Busters award case or do you tell your child that you think it is very thoughtful of him or her to want to give them gifts and encourage your child to allow you to take them to the mall so they can purchase something more appropriate for the spouses family (i.e gift cards music, etc)
Is it tacky to allow your child to give whatever they see fit or do you think children need to be taught how to give gifts?
2006-12-27 15:07:16 · 4 answers · asked by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The child only thought about getting the gifts after you kinda mentioned that his uncle and grandma had gifts for him. Your child originally had picked out something for himself.
2006-12-27 15:15:55 · update #1
I think it is very sweet for that child to want to get them gifts like that- I would say let them get those, since it was their choice to do so, and also go get more appropriate gifts for the relatives.
Personally I think if you tell that child that it was a "bad" idea, they might get discouraged, hence letting him do both.
2006-12-27 15:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I see your point, however, I would defeintly allow your child to pick them out presents that he can afford (ie: cheesy stuff from D&B). Have him also write a personal thank you card to send with it, I would be thrilled to receive this as a gift from a child. The point of etiquette is GIVING, not the acutaly item, so I think you're right on track. You child sounds very sweet for wanting to do such a thing.
2006-12-27 16:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by michelcreek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your child should have to give anything. If you yourself wants to give something as a nice gesture its up to you, but until your child is an adult with a paying job, no one should expect anything from them. If you choose to give something then yes, you should teach them what an appropriate gift is, but I don't think it is necessary for your child to give anything. Christmas is for the kids to enjoy and your child should be spending his/her gift cards/coupons on themselves.
2006-12-27 15:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by MRod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these are adults, I would have them send a thank you for the gift, and include something home-made, such as artwork, or magnetic picture frame decorated. If they're children, just hit their next birthdays.
2006-12-27 15:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋