What are some signs that you should avoid getting involved with someone?
2006-12-27 15:06:26 · 19 answers · asked by Stranger in a Strangeland 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Track marks!! lol.
Hmm well if she isn't groomed... like she doesn't necessarily have to be beautiful, but if it's obvious she doesn't care about herself (smells bad, greasy hair, dirty nails etc) that's a bad sign.
If she always negatively speaks of herself ("I'm so fat," "I can't get a guy," etc that's bad... relationships don't work too well if one person has really low self-esteem). Of course it's charming if a person isn't afraid to make fun of themselves but that's entirely different.
If she really tries to impress you (always talks about her achievements, talks about how much money she spends, etc) then that shows she's insecure so again a red flag.
If she's obviously digging to see how well off you are... like she asks what your job is, what kind of car you drive, etc. This is a bit tricky because people talk about work all the time, it's a big part of life... maybe she likes cars but in general you'll be able to tell pretty quick if she's a gold-digger, and that's just tacky. Same thing for on the first couple dates she should at least offer to pay/split the check.
This may sound like a no-brainer but if she doesn't have good manners you probably won't want to bring her home to meet the family.
If she seems to easy, in my opinion that isn't good girlfriend material. Of course this is a loaded statement and sometimes people who sleep together on the first date end up married (I actually know someone who married the girl he slept with on the first date and they're happy), but in general if she seems easy/slutty she probably has done this type of thing before.
If she tells you all her problems right away etc that isn't so good... there's a delicate balance between disclosing everything and being mysterious.
If she appears needy that isn't good. You'll tire of her insecurities, her expectations of you fixing her, etc.
Make sure she has her own life, like as you get to know her make sure you're not her whole world--it just doesn't work if she relies on you for everything.
These are just general guidelines... there are exceptions to every rule, but go with your gut instinct... if you think something is off it probably is. On the flipside, don't judge her too quickly... if things don't seem 100% perfect on the first date it could be attributed to nerves and many other things, just be patient, polite, and you'll figure things out for yourself pretty quickly. Good luck :)
2006-12-27 15:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by Principessa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your really picky. You should be able to spot the red flags. Everyone is going to have a flaw that won't meet to your standard. I guess, you have to stand back and question if one of thier flaws is going to annoy you in the long run. Be patient with people my suggestion. They may throw out a red flag but it really has to be up to you of how big that red flag bothers you. Noone, can really tell you who is the right one for you. Thats all up to you. :)
2006-12-27 15:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way. A lot of women are tricky and they find new tricks so as to catch their men and trap them. Definitely, you'll have to avoid women that are controlling, cry babies, and a lot of other ways. Some will pretend to be so good, but you'll just have to be careful and get to know them well. But don't get too close. Just keep observing them and don't show too much of yourself.
2006-12-27 15:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you're just casual dating (not steady) and she's already getting jealous.
When you've just met the woman and she's already blowing up your phone (over 5 calls a day--unless you tell her to call back), voice mail, and texts.
When you've just met her and she wants to know where you're at all times of the day.
When you've just met her and she wants all of your attention including the time you spend with your family.
The things I listed are woman showing early signs of jealousy or drama queen, which you will recognize and should be sure to steer away from women like that.
2006-12-27 15:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
look at the body language because if you notice that she kinda avoids you. Also if your starting a relationship watch out for the bitchyness because you dont want someone you dont like to be around (unless you like that sort of thing.) Just be careful to find someone you want.
2006-12-27 15:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest is if the person has had many boyfriends/girlfriends. This means that there is probably something wrong with the person because they can't stay in a relationship!
2006-12-27 15:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid the ones with fangs. That girl that's really nice to you all the time and smiles at you whenever you see her? That's the one, quit being so completely clueless and ask her out already.
2006-12-27 15:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by Gene 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dated a girl about 8 months ago who the day after our 2nd date texted me 30 times while I was at work. I spoke to her later that night and she asked why I didn't respond to all of them. I told her I was at work (duh) and to not send so many because I got to pay for that ****. So she sent me 28 the next day and acted like she did as I asked. Then after asked that since we went on 2 dates if we were offical. I knew then that I had to bounce and so I did.
2006-12-27 15:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by DLG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 red flags you should avoid... A controling freak... A gold digger... A ******, whiting complain-about-everythig-all-the-time freak.
2006-12-27 15:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by Abner R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she just got broken up with, that could be a bad sign. If she won't introduce you to her friends is another one. But, just go with what feels right. Advice never seems to work :^)
2006-12-27 15:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by fireflyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋