One of my best friends went through a pretty bad break-up, its 6 months later now and he can't get over his ex. She ruined his life badly.
Were both 23 year old college guys. Im not asexual - I have never had a girlfriend but now I guess I don't really want one anyways after seeing him (my friend) crushed by the opposite sex.
Since I never will date, will I really be missing out on anything or will I just be missing out on all that needless drama? They try to make romance look so good on TV I guess its not really like that?
Have you ever known anyone who is of dating age and has never had a girlfriend/boyfriend? Its a shame that were culturally programmed to want a romantic companion. My guess is that I won't really be missing out on anything, but I just want to make sure.
Don't you think it's kinda virtuous to go through life untouched and never romantically involved? Dosn't that build up strong self-discipline?
2006-12-27 14:59:34 · 11 answers · asked by Nietzsche 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In addition to the whole virtuous factor (I'm not religious, I'm an agnostic), I will be keeping myself celebate (as I'm a virgin as well)
2006-12-27 15:01:03 · update #1
an no I'm definately never planning on getting married - what a ridiculous institution!
2006-12-27 15:11:17 · update #2
yea u made a good choice i got married and now im miserable but im kinda cheating on him shhh!
2006-12-27 15:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Valerie 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I wholeheartedly agree with you and yes, i am one of the type of yours.
It is noble to go through life untouched and never romantically involved before marriage. I support it. Look at the people who did such affairs. Do you think they could make it to a successful married life? How many? Very few. Can you find a guy/girl over 18 who never kissed, or been kissed by beloved one? it is rare.
I enjoy living this life and will be saving all that kiss and touch for marriage. Yes, I do want to marry and lead married life.
2006-12-27 15:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Legend 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if you want to not have that type of relationship then people should respect that. It's not bad and I think you will miss out on some stuff inclueding needless drama but some of the stuff might just make the relationship stronger and yes there will be heart break, but that only leads you to someone who will heal that heart break and will love you untill the end, but it's your decision...
2006-12-27 15:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Keira Mantia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. I have a friend who just turned 39 who never really dated. Not sure of his "sexual status;" never quite got to that point with him. I had an incredible crush on him at one point. My goddaughter saw us together and thought something was about to spark up between us. Told her I don't get any more crushes since I'm married now.
I think you're a little young to decide that you never want to date. I wouldn't advise you to seek someone, but if someone is trying to latch onto you, you might want to try and get to know her. You may see her 20 years later and regret it if you don't.
2006-12-27 15:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everything in life has a downside - but without risks you will never know the joy of success.
If you never try out for a team, you'll never lose a game - but you'll never win either!
If you never apply for a job - you'll never get fired - but you'll never get promoted or get a big raise either!
And if you never get romantically invoved with a woman, you'll never get your heart broken - but you'll never get to experience true love or sexual fulfilment either!!
I think you're being way too drastic!
Also, speaking as a man in my 30's, I've got to tell you, your mid 20's is "prime time" for dating - you do NOT want to miss out on that! Otherwise, you'll get to be my age, and change your mind, you'll probably find that you simply cannot find a woman at all. it gets a whole lot harder to find love once you are over 30!
I guarantee you, in 10 years, you'll be regretting your decision to become celibate for life at 24!!!
2006-12-27 15:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. I think that makes you one of the most interesting guy with that characteristics and with that said I think your cool. I agree with some of the things you mentioned about tv progmaming relationships that look good and I know its not always the case. When the right girl come along for you she is one lucky girl.
2006-12-27 15:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 01:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whats best for you chances are to find a woman thats right for you you will more then likely go through a ton that will hurt you and break you down in every way possible but it is worth it when you find that right one but it hurts to an almost unbearable extent when the one you are absoulutely sure is the right one for you turns out not to be but even still when you find the right one its very well worth it
2006-12-27 15:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by doobiemanrfrank 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned how good romance looks on TV. That's exactly what it is — television. FICTION. Don't buy into that. Obviously you value self-discipline, so go ahead and get it. I understand exactly where you're coming from. There are lots of other problems worth dwelling on. Good for you.
2006-12-27 15:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
seriously, dating is fun and yes a risk, but u really can't find out if u like it or not unless u try it. plz dont base the concept of dating on other ppl's experience. yes, a risk comes along with dating but like any risk, a really good outcome could come out of it. don't pretend like u dont want to date...u know u want to. or else u wouldnt have asked this Q
2006-12-27 15:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm assuming you are just waiting for the right person to come along. I don't see anything wrong with that... Better to wait rather than end up with someone you are with just to "be with" rather than "want to be with".
2006-12-27 15:03:57 · answer #11 · answered by Chuck J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋