I am 16 turnin 17 in april...i hate home life i dont get along with my adopted mother..i really really want to move out when im 17...but i know they wont allow it...do i have to have their permission? i will tell them where im going...to my boyfriends..his mom already agreed...will they be able to stop me? i will stay in school and i will maintain my job...its not like im gunna get pregnant and dropout...im gunna continue my life i even plan to go to college but i have to get out of here...my parents forbid me to see my boyfriend...and if moving out is my only option i will....someone please tell me if my plan is going to work....can i leave this place?
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oo....ps i live in texas...so what are the rules here?
2006-12-27 14:55:38 · 24 answers · asked by suckerfish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you will come crawling bak
2006-12-27 14:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I live in Michigan and up here you can legally move out at 17. Your parents cant say that you must come home. However they can take your liscense if you have one. I would just check into the texas laws. You also need to think about the long term effects of moving out at that age. Like what if it doesnt work out at your boyfriends house? In texas the cost of living is probably hire than in michigan and I know my bills on my own are about 1100 a month. Would you be able to afford to work full time to pay your bills and still go to school full time?
Im not saying that you shouldnt move out because I dont know what Its like at your parents house but I would definately look at the pro's and the con's before you make any life changing decisions. Then I would do research on the Texas Minor Laws. Then make your decision. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-27 23:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, i know exactly how you feel. You feel like your alone don't you. Well don't worry, i want to help. I'm soooo glad that you want to continue your life, just in a different location. I would say that if your parents really loved you, they would let you go. You can leave this place, but you will have some trouble. That is, until your 18. If your parents don't let you move out, but you do anyway then they can call the police and get your boyfriend and his mom in trouble. Since they are your legal guardians, the police would have to place you in their custody. You can still try it, though i think you need some more thought. Can you wait until your're 18? That's when you could anything on your own. If they do let you move out, then you won't have any problems. Just tell them how it would make you happy. You would still keep in touch with them, right? Just really, sit down and think of positive things to say that will convince them. Remeber: you want to have a calm discussion-not an argument. If they don't let you move out, just a lot of time out of the house. Enroll in recreational stuff or after-school activities. Get a job, go out with your friends- just get out of the house! Or, you can try to make things right by cooking a nice dinner for them, writing them a beautiful letter, just anything to brighten up their day. I wrote my parents a beautiful letter about my feelings and how much they mean to me and stuff like that, and seriously, things are much better at home.
I know that you're a smart girl and whatever choice you make will be for the best.
Best wishes
2006-12-27 23:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some States allow and recognize a 17 yr old as an adult. Check on this first. If you find this is not the case, it will have to go thru the court system- which may take a lot of time. It may be worth waiting the extra yr. Texas i am not sure about but you can find out the laws easily by going on the net and search for state minor laws.
2006-12-27 23:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by P/T Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay where you are
your mum is not harming you in any way!
they do know best for you
but just the same ask if he can come over for dinner & when they know he is nice they may let you see him at your place for visits or go to the movies with him but moving out is not the thing to do because you may break up with the guy & then you have no where to live & besides you really would be sick of him if you lived with him that young
2006-12-27 23:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes at 17 you can leave, but most young men/women do not have the financial means. Courts pretty much do not interfere with those so close to 18th b-day. By the time everything is said and done you'd be 18 anyway and any decent attorney could run out the clock.
2006-12-28 00:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about Texas laws but in California you can become an emancipated teen when you are 16. But keep in mind that until you turn 18 you can't work in full time position, you are limited to part time jobs that pay diddley. Also keep in mind that IF you are on your own you will be expected to be responsible for ALL of your finances. That means YOU will have to pay rent, YOU will have to pay all of the household bills (ie. water, garbage, sewer, eletric, phone) You will be responsible for paying for you cable television and internet access as well. You will also be responsible for all medical/dental bills as you will no longer be covered under your parents medica/dental plan. If you wind up in need of surgery YOU will be responsible to pay for ALL of it. If you don't have health insurance and need to go to the hospital you may wind up going to a "county" hospital where care is often substandard, because health insurance is needed in order to pay those massive surgery bills. If you have a car and payments are still being made on it and your parents are making the payments you will either have to leave the car at your parents or take over the payments yourself...Oh yeah and don't forget the car insurance too. YOU will be responsible for any further education you might want to get in order to get a decent career, don't expect your parents to pay for it as they will no longer be responsible for your care and feeding and education. Yes there are student loans but also keep in mind that most companies that dole out those student loans are now requiring they be paid in full within a year of graduation. Like I said YOU will be responsible for all of the above...don't expect welfare to pick up the slack if you can't cut it on part time wages.
In short...Yeah you CAN leave that place....but do you have the finances to take on ALL of those responsiblities at 17?
2006-12-27 23:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably wait until you're 18, maybe you can work something out with your parents. By then, you may even have a different boyfriend, or none at all. Give it some time and do your best, I think you're too young to move out. Good luck.
2006-12-27 22:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by Bestie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can probably move out legally. But you have to know that moving out is not going to be a miracle cure for what you got going at home. Please do not move in with this boy and think that he is your only out from your home life! Girls that put themselves in situations like that usually end up stuck with some loser.
Living in the "real" world can be hard so just make any decision your going to make with both eyes open.
2006-12-27 23:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by Topaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think in TX you can file for emancipation of youth at the age of 16 you just have to prove that you'll be able to support yourself and that you have a justifiable reason to move away from home.
Good luck, this is really difficult for most teenagers to accomplish.
2006-12-27 22:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to consult a busboy at a Chinese restaurant, They are very familiar with all the rules pertaining to moving out at 17. They are tested daily on the issue.
2006-12-27 22:58:08 · answer #11 · answered by Husker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋