The love one and am IN love with another. The one I love loves me, trust me, is stable and would make the most sense. The other I am IN LOVE with, he makes me feel alive, but we've tried now for two years and can't seem to get it right, but through it ALL I have never stopped loving him even though I have tried. But now I have to decide, do I stay with the one I love or move on AGAIn to the one i'm IN LOVE with, the one I want to marry. My heart hurts.
2006-12-27 14:43:43 · 6 answers · asked by dazed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur answer is hidden in ur question itself...
2006-12-27 15:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. In order to be with the one you love, you would be settling for less than what your heart desires. In order to be with the one you are in love with, it might not work. I say chalk them both up and get two new ones to figure out! LOL seriously, I know your situation all too well. I had the same problem not so long ago. Do I stay with the one that I adore even though he is not everything I have ever wanted, although stable, loyal and very sensible, or do I go with the one that sets my soul on fire? I went with the one that I am in love with and so far so good. The other guy, sorry to say, was just a crutch and an emergency kit. He would always be there when I needed him, but I was selling him short. It is not nice to be second best and it wasn't right to string him along, just in case I suddenly fell out of love with the other. Please don't fool yourself that you could love this stable man. Because your heart will never be with him completely. Would you want to be loved by only a half of a heart?
2006-12-27 15:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Christinaaaaaahhhhhh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been trying for two years to get it right while still dating the one that loves you? If so that could be the cause of a lot of the problems. It seems that your heart is pulling towards the one you are in love with yet you are scared because of the possible negative outcome. You are only holding on to the one that loves you for security out of fear it will not work with the other. This is not fair to any of them nor you!
You have to be willing to let go of the one who loves you and take the risk that it may not work out with the other. Yet, as any relationship goes, it may not work out with the one who loves you either. Then it may be too late to be with the one that your heart is longing for. Also, don't look for someone else to be stable. If you're stable then that's all that matters (of course none of us want a leach either). True love doesn't cast judgment on ones status. Hope that helps a little!
2006-12-27 15:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by every little thing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have the answer "The one I love loves me, trust me, is stable and would make the most sense".
You should be senseless to make any different decision. Make this one make you feel alive and you will not miss any thing in life.
The compatibility of two partners in very important in Love, Romance and Marriage.
Any one can love every one but all are not compatible to live together as partners for rest of the life.
Make your heart feel more about the first one. Appreciate him. Every other day you will fall in love with some one new it does not mean you leave the earlier ones and keep jumping your life.
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2006-12-27 15:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant be with both decide with whom u want spent Ur life with
please dint keep telling Ur self i love both
its better u continue with the one who really makes sense to be with
god bless you
2006-12-27 17:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by shabana o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats hard....lol
2006-12-27 14:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by e_s_p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋