How long should I wait???
I've been with my boyfriend for five years. We are both young professionals (early thrities). At first, I didnt' want a family. I have changed my mind. He hasn't. I don't want to leave him. However... I want to get married and start a family. He doesn't. I can't picture myself with anyone else, and I certainly don't want to see him with anyone else, either. I feel like I am wasting years. I trust him completely. We have a great relationship, but I want more. I've been feeling this way for the last year or so... If he doesn't budge, when should I give up and move on?
2006-12-27 14:37:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't give up. Five years is a long time. It is too hard to cut ties at that point. Give it another year.
2006-12-27 14:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to see you or anyone in such turmoil. You just can't persuade someone on the idea of having a family. Is he talking marriage after these five years? If he's not, you're just spinning your wheels anyway. PLEASE say you are not living together! What ever you do, you have to move on with your life. You can still love someone from afar, but for the most part, a man is not going to commit if he feels like there really isn't a need to. Your moving on doesn't necessarily mean finding someone else, but it should mean (for you), opening up the potential for new possibilities. He needs to see what life is like without you now and stop taking for granted the fact that you'll always be there without a commitment.
Don't pressure him. Let him go at his pace, move on.
2006-12-27 14:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by volkgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you need to make up your mind what you want because you can't have it both ways ( him and a family) he has made it clear that he doesn't want to get married and have a family yet you keep hoping he will change ( he won't) I know it will hurt but if you really want a husband and a family you need to move on now.
2006-12-27 14:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself how important this is to you. Our opinions change over time as yours has about a family. Perhaps his will, perhaps it won't. Is your desire to have children strong? Is there some underlying reason why he doesnt? I believe that love has to be unconditional and you want to do anything and everything for your love. You may want to reevaluate his love for you. If you want children and he doesn't (and he is committed to never), move on now...
2006-12-27 14:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by from Alabama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait. if he is the one then it will happen. also try to give her dark hints about it. maby just say it openly "i want a family." then talk.
2006-12-27 14:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wen ever the phuck u feel like its ur life not his.....phuck him
2006-12-27 14:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by juicy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋