my college roommate (that I have no control about living with him or moving out), is a very disrespectful human being. He shows no compassion when he blares his dual 6 foot speakers at 3 AM on finals week. my living room looks and smells like a jumbo sized dumpster and it's 100% HIS mess. He always says something smartass to me no matter what the situation, for reasons I have no clue of. I've never been mean to him or have given him any reason to be like this. I've asked him to clean, I've begged him to let me sleep, I've talked to the housing office who could care less, i've tried bargaining with him, i've tried arguing with him. It just never ends. I'm trying very hard in college and I need my sleep and i need things to be sanitary. as a solution: you might think violence but I'll just leave it at "no comment." he obviously doesn't mind being covered in filth so i can't stink him into cleaning. What would YOU do??
2006-12-27 14:23:31 · 10 answers · asked by rrossorr 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Firstly I would make sure you do all your studying for finals in the library. Then invest in a good pair of ear plugs, okay so they won't block out to much noice but it is worth a try. I would probably make another complaint this time to the Dean. tell the dean your aspirations of being someone in life and this other fellow is detering you from doing so, if you are not moved you may have to lodge a complaint to the authorities about harrassment, this might get the Dean thinking and starting to move you out of there. It is just an idea but you are right vviolence is not the key but a good set of brains is :)
2006-12-27 16:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by ANASTASIA_NIKOLAIEVNA_ROMANOVA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It almost sounds like he enjoys riling you. If you think this is true - don't make it so much fun for him any more.
I'm not sure how - but, if you CAN'T GET HELP and there is no other solution, play HIS game back to him and see what happens.
When he's sleeping, play the music loud and hard and so on.
It sounds like he has a childish personality and it might be that the only way to get through is to him is with this Neanderthal method.
When my son was an infant, he took some happy giggly pleasure in biting people and nothing in the world worked to make him stop. He was way too young to reason with. So one day I just bit him back (not too hard) and he was shocked and dismayed. He finally GOT it. I think that might be the tactic you might have to take with this adult child.
The one thing I have run up against in life over and over again is massive differences in people and their intellect; the way they were raised and their empathy. You can't assume he has the same background or thoughts as you have. You have to outsmart him without really hurting him... that is if there is no other help available for you.
2006-12-27 15:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by Charlamaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your floor have an RA (residence advisor)? I would talk to them about your issue. Maybe the RA can talk to your roommate.
Perhaps you can make a deal with the kid. Set up quiet hours for music - like no music after midnight. Maybe you can cut the living room in half and actually put up a barrier, that way his junk isn't in your face. Maybe try telling him no food garbage should be laying around - you could get rats and cockroaches!
Good luck to you!
2006-12-27 14:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've not actually lived on campus, but there must be someone or some place that you can file a complaint to. It also sounds like you are living in unsanitary conditions due to his neglectful habits and lack of maintanance on his part of your the dorm room. You must complain and if he continues to violate rules / regulations, he sould be out in no time. Bottom line is that you need to file a complaint.
2006-12-27 14:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Venus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Threaten to sue the college bigtime. Pay an attorney to threaten a lawsuit to demand satisfaction. next term move out and live alone. Or get a quiet, nice gay roommate. They are not usually Neanderthal jocks like your roomie. They are clean, and good guys to know.
next time share with a quiet, polite gay man. Much better.
don't assault him - he might hurt you badly or sue you. And he won't change under threat of violence. he's just a scumbag.in his very nature.
2006-12-27 14:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make a pan of brownies with ex lax in them and offer one to him --then another, then another! After he craps over the moon and is sick, make another one. Keep him in the bathroom and pretty soon he will get the picture.
2006-12-27 14:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by jiffypop88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get away from him. YOu need your sleep, and he has the radio blariing. I would go nuts if I lived with him.
2006-12-30 08:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by Pauly W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reasoning has got you nowhere so I would simply kill him.
Why should your education and well being have to suffer because of that inconsiderate prick?
2006-12-27 14:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the housing office notice, either you get a different room, he gets a different room or they get a civil suit.
2006-12-27 14:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just, pray about it.. Follow Gods rule always! He will help you!
2006-12-27 14:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by Katie J 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋