ok so i am crazy i mean crazyyyyyy in love with this boy i was in denial for about two months that he was nobody to me but i finally realize that i cant stop thinking about him. so okay we have been dating and he use to call alot but all of a sudden he doesnt call. i dont want to be that physco girlfriend that stalks her boyfriend and im only 15. But now that i realize that i just can not lose this guy. he is 17 now and the last thing he wants is a annoying girlfriend. What ive been doing is text messaging him and only then does he answer but now he doesnt answer does that mean he is cheating and isn;t interested in me anymore? Im starting to feel that way watching sad movies not wanting to go out with my frieds anymore but i guess i should just get over it because it really isnt that serious he is just a boy who cares........ok that is the denial im talking about I THINK ABOUT MY BF ALL THE TIME HOW DA HELL AM I SUPPOSE TO JUST GET OVER HIM I CANT CALL HIM IM TOO SHY??????????????
2006-12-27 14:21:33 · 12 answers · asked by da_luvable 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello,
Bless your heart hun. First of all this is a tough love session I'm giving you. You are 15 yrs old and he's 17 ok now you know that there is a difference here. He's able to drive and hang out with people his age. I am not saying that your not mature enough for him. But dear your still in school and if he hasn't graduated he will be here soon. He's going to go on hun and where is that going to leave you? Think about this, please.
I am going to go out on a limb here and say that suga he's no longer interested and doesn't know how to tell you. So I suggest that you take the hint and move on with your life.
Stop sending him messages if he hasn't contacted you by now then he isn't. And your right at your age when it comes to boys "who cares?" you shouldn't! Your young and have a lot ahead of you. Besides I am sure that your a very pretty and attractive girl. There are probadly many guys who are wanting to go out with you but think that your with this guy who isn't giving you the time of day.
I suggest that you whip out of this sad movie, don't want to hang out with your friends mode and put your big girl panties on and deal with it!
Go out with your girlfriends to the mall get yourself a new outfit, do some girl things and hun have yourself a good time! Do you think that he is sitting watching sad movies ? not wanting to hang with his friends? Nope I don't think so sweetheart so why are you?
Don't let this one so called relationship depress you so much ok.. Now hop up go to the mirror and say" This is it no more crying, texting, being in depressed mode I'm over it and moving on!! Hell I look good and if he's not interested in me that's his lose!" whip yourself around and work it girl!!
So dear as of right now you snap out of it !! Deal?
Take care and have yourself some fun!!
I hope that you have a wonderful new year !!
2006-12-27 14:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first things first...calm down.
Don't think and overanaylze too much. It will get you nowhere and I'm telling you from personal experience.
It's natural to think about him 24/7 but it is hardly the way to go. Denial is also very natural and I'm very familar with it. You go through the phases of denial then anger then bargaining then depression then acceptance.
I was in love with this guy and still am but I tried to get over it because I didn't think he liked me in any way at all. it turned out that you can't help how you feel so I accepted it even though I didn't think he cared about me at all. However, fortunately, I was dead wrong. He told me he was in love with me as well.
Though we never got together for reasons that are much more complicated than yours. All I'm trying to say is that you shouldn't think about it too much, but if gets to the point that it is ridiculuous and he doesn't contact you in anyway for a long period of time, someting is definitely up.
Wondering about it and thinking about it won't get you anywhere. You need to take action, honey. Confront him and talk to him. that is what I did today, becaue he broke up with me and told me to forget about him one week before Christmas and I knew I had enough. I wasn't the kind of person who just ends things like that. I asked if we could start over as friends and he agreed.
I knew that in the end everything will be okay. But if it's not okay, then it isn't the end.
It was one of the most difficult things I had to do and it takes a lot of courage to call him up. But if you wait around, you'll never get anywhere. Do it now, pick up the phone and ring him. If it turns out badly just be in the comfort that you now know and won't go crazy and you can get a move on, and if it turns out well.....best of luck to both of you.
Pick up the phone. Take it from nineteen year old. Chances are she knows what she's talking about.
~ Callie
2006-12-27 14:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Callista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Don't be shy, if you really like this guy then you'd talk to him, ask what's wrong and what you should do. Don't forget you have a lot of years ahead of you. There are many many many other guys you'll look at before you want to go onto bigger things. If he's ignoring you then I say end it now before you have even stronger feelings for him or you'd get hurt even more. You're still young and teenagers tend to have more emotional feel in relationships, I'm a teenager too I should know. Just talk to him first, if these aren't working out, then look in other places. Good Luck.
2006-12-27 14:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by J <3 J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be indifferent to it all. If he really cares for you, he will call you up or text you back. Make this as the yardstick if you can continue with the relationship or not. If he does not contact you in any way, after your texting him , then you have to move on. You are still young, concentrate more on your studies. This is your priority for the moment. When you will graduate , i am sure, lots of men will, be vying for the chance to get to know you better. There is always a right time and a right place for anything.
2006-12-27 14:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look first youll never hold on to someone who dosnt want to be held your young he's young and everybody gets alittle jelouse when something changes in there relationship best bet to settle your fears or comferm them. talk to him only he can tell you what you want to know everything else is just speculation and again obsessing over anyone isnt a good idea chill it could only be your imagination and if your right and he is looking elsware what do you think you can do no offence but not alot so relax use you head and talk to him one way or the other youll have your answer
2006-12-27 15:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by problemchild20032003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he was not your bf in the first place...a bf is when u with someone for at least 8 months to a year...that's when u can call him a bf. Your only 15,,,honey please wait before you call someone your bf. You need to move on and do something fun...boys are nothing but little boys at the age of 17 there only out for one thing and please don't make that mistake!
2006-12-27 14:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by PrivateWoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was 14years old i had a boyfriend that i really liked and he didn;t call either and you do get over it pretty fast.If you can;t then go see some one that can help you if you are crazy like you say you are ;there is a lot of help out there for crazy people.I do feel for you cause i once have been there too.
2006-12-27 14:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by bonnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 15. Please take my advice and use this time to study and be a better person. Have fun, no serious relationships. Your idea of the perfect man will change 10 times before you are twenty. Don't make serious life decisions now.
2006-12-27 14:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Pamela V 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy at 15 this is normal.
Dont stalk him.
Talk with him and see where his head is ...Get and idea if he is really into you as a person. and take it from there and see if he is not just an infacuation.
2006-12-27 14:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by hawleysangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow did you end the chase? You know guys like to chase and if you allowed yourself to be caught before the chase was over, then that is why he is not answering you anymore!
2006-12-27 14:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by mindysbartenders 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋