HELP , i need serious help, what should i tell my parents?

Question

i am totally into this guy and i wanna go on a vacation with him....for 5 days, but i dont know what should i tell my parents, they think of me as of a typical virgin cathlic girl who never been with a guy before....yeah, and i am 21 and this is my first serious bf and i feel like i really wanna go.....so how can i tell it to my parents in a nice way, i dont wanna break their hearts too, especially my fathers......help??

Answer 1

start out in a calm simple voice.tell them that u r a very obedient person to have not have had any sexual interaction...(many girls ur age,and maybe younger,already lost their virginity)then tell them ur growing up,which u r.so tell them that since ur growing up u need some1 in ur life.so tell them that u've met some1 that u think they'll like.(and they actually DO have 2 like him)then tell them what eles u think,about ur vaca together,tell them the good points 2 ur relationship,tell them about ur guy,but still reassure them that u still will be their little girl...u wont change that much..make sure 2 spend time w/ ur parentals,they need love 2!!!well this is my advice!!i hope it helps u on ur love troubles and such!GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 2

Look at it this way: you want to go but you're afraid your parents will object.

Well, you won't really know unless you ask them first, right? I mean don't just ask them flat out but don't beat around the bush too much either.

You're 21, and the most important thing is to ask them like an adult. If they say "no" just stand your ground but don't be disrespectful. Ask them first and if they refuse explain to them that you are at an age where the decision has to be made by you and that your parents are only there to act as guidance and it is your choice whether you choose to take it or leave it.

Tell them you'll still be catholic, you'll still be who you are, that won't change but tell them that they have to accept the fact that you are old enough to make choices of your own. This is not a question of what you should tell your parents but that you must tell your parents.

But then again, you have to consider the guy. Have your parents met him? Do you really trust him? Is he inviting you to go with him or is he forcing you? You may say you really wanna go but I hope that is you talking and not him. If you are really serious with him then I say as long as you know him and that he will love you regardless of your answer then maybe it is worth going for.

Remember that there are two things to consider. Remember also that you're 21( a good two years older than me) and I trust your judgement. Just make sure your parents trust you too

~ Callie.

Answer 3

Well you can be honest with your parent. Please know they are just trying to help you. I am a parent. You know what I was 21 also. Actually 21 was the age when my entire life changed. I didn't listen. I followed my hear and my life and been different every since. I got pregnant, had to stop going to school and take care of my baby. I was really close to getting my associates. When I did go back I had to start all over with my basic because they are only good for a certain time.

I told you part of my story because right now you are thinking with your heart. Please Please be wise in the decision you make what ever it is.

Answer 4

First of all let your parents know how much you love and respect them and value them.

Then tell them that your planning on going on vacation with your boyfriend and you just wanted them to know so they wont worry about you when your gone.

If they havent met your boyfriend now may be a good time for them to meet so you can put their fears to rest and let them know where your gonna be staying or a phone number if you need to be reached. Or guarantee them if they are worried that you will call them if there is the slightest hint of a problem!

If you act in a responsible way and are truthful with them they will realize that there "little girl" is growing up and appreciate your honesty with them. Happy Holidays!

Answer 5

Is it with JUST him? And how long have you been with this guy? How far is this place away from home?

I went somewhere like 4-5 hours away last summer with my boyfriend. We were together for 5 months at the time. We were friends for a long time before that. My parents said it was fine. And it wasn't just us. We were with our friends.

So depending on my questions, it depends. And you should really consider your parents' side on this.

Just tell them the things you are going to be doing and don't be surprised if they ask you a lot of questions. They actually should.

Answer 6

You are asking an age related question that doesnt' make a lot of sense. If you are 21, you need to make the decision regardless of your parents feelings. Time to grow up. And you can be grown up without having sex in this situation. If he's not open to that then he's not grown up either.

Answer 7

Yea your 21, but come on now. You are eventually gonna break your daddys heart anyway, so its now or later. You need to tell them the truth if your gonna tell them at all. Sometimes saying nothing is best.

Answer 8

You only have two choices, lie or tell the truth. If you tell the truth, you won't have to hide or feel guilty about it. You don't have to tell your parents that you are intimate with the man.

Also remember that, usually, your parents have your best interest at heart.

Answer 9

hun, ur 21. u need to just tell ur parents that ur old enough to go on vacation for 5 days. just don't come back pregent and they will slowly trust u more and more.

Answer 10

Even at your age, if you are having a problem telling your parents, you should not go. You are still too immature. That's not an insult.