in school i feel totally invisible. which really stincks cus i have this really perky bubbayly personality and i am fun. ( not to sound consided) but everyday i try soo hard to look cute and its not like i am ugly. i have brown hair big brown eyes and i am 4"11. And no one notices me. How can i get some guys to notice me more? and how can i get the confidence enough so that i can be as confident and as fun as i am outside of my school, inside of school?
2006-12-27 14:11:18 · 38 answers · asked by peace love & lipgloss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes when girl tries to hard to be noticed, it seems desprate. Fake confidence also can look like that as well. I can tell that you have a good selfesteem about yourself because you can admit you are pretty. Just be yourself! guys really like that in a girl.
2006-12-27 14:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason that guys aren't noticing you is that you have no confidence at all. OK. You sound cool and all but if you don't have confidence, noone will notice. You need to speak up and get noticed. Try out for activities and sports in school. That is one way. Try to go to parties and mingle with people. Don't worry what other people think about you. You know you look good and are fun to be around, so why not try talking to that guy sitting in math class or across from you at lunch. You never know what can happen. Good luck!
2006-12-27 14:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by myangelbarry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy, just dress as provocatively as possible -- show as much skin as you can without being sent home. Another idea is to make yourself "available" and let your reputation precede you. You may be a little less respected but you'll be noticed!
If you're keen to notice that will work but probably isn't the best suggestion, you might try just talking to guys once in a while. In those awkward high school years, people are quick to label and categorize each other, but you can, with effort, be recognized for the warm, friendly person you are. Just don't let a few rejections get you down -- it's not personal, it's just immaturity.
2006-12-27 14:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For quite some time, I was exactly like you. I know how it feels. I have always been different in personality and in dressing wise. I strive for things that a typical girl doesn't and I work really hard in maintaining straight A's. I may be noticed by guys as the "smart one," but in other ways, I'm just not in the group. This is what made me wonder if I really should act like every other girl, but thanks to my final decision, I acted with my personality and didn't care about other people's opinions. The one good thing that I found within myself was a friendliness and open mind. That was how I discovered that I could make guy friends just as easily as making girl friends. Instead of just being with my tight circle of friends, I talk to a lot of new people of both genders around my age, and every year, I make at least one new girl and guy friend. I realized that by being yourself and acting naturally to your conscience is the only way to attract attention from both guys and girls. If you act like any typical girl, there's no way to attract a significant number of new guy friends and/or attention. Trust me. I had to learn for years just to get that concept in my head, and when I did, it showed me the benefits and now I'm pretty socialble. I also found out that I actually felt more comfortable socializing with guys. If you are really into getting a boyfriend, the first step is to make guy friends without having the purpose of a relationship. If you think that you really like this guy and want to start any relationship, the best way to get any closer to the guy is to start talking to him and to get to know him. This I can guarantee will allow you to become fast friends. Whether or not any further relationship will develop, that will leave to the decisions of the both of you. The main thing is to never change anything about yourself in order to try and attract any attention from others and that's going to be the key to socializing and choosing friends. Good luck!
2006-12-27 14:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta be straightforward. stand on a box in the middle of your school's quad at lunch and announce to all the guys that you have a really perky bubbly personality so they should notice you. Remember also to tell them about your brown hair and that its not like you're ugly or anything. They'll notice you for sure I promise good luck!
2006-12-27 14:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the game of life, things do not always go the way you want them to.
Focus on the goals that you have set for yourself, and make new
friendships and relationships through your areas of interest.
If you focus your energies on being noticed,
you will draw attention to yourself since people will observe
that you are trying to be noticed.
There is a lot of peer pressure to fit into a particular social group
in junior and high school.
20 years from now you will be saying to yourself,
"What was I thinking back then?"
Study while you are young since this may be
the only opportunity that you will ever get.
2006-12-27 14:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by tjhauck2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't judge your value, but yourself.
Ever heard the lines
"I was the flower when he called me."?
Change this into
"I was the flower before he called me."
It's so wierd, but for me, when I didn't care about so much
about how I'd look to guys, but acted just confident and usual.
Some guys who didn't care about me that much began to
notice me a lot. It's really important to be confident and loving yourself. Cuz somebody is definitely gonna know you.
Laugh and constantly talk to yourself how beautiful you are.
how smart you are. how fun you are . how intelligent you are ...etc. infront of the mirror every morning in your bathroom.
Also, after school. You are definitely gonna be beauty more than now. Believe sometimes in something miracle. Then, it shall happen.
You can do it!!!!
2006-12-27 14:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am very self concious. I am overweight and I can't get a girlfriend. I have always wondered the same thing. I have learned that you just have to wait. You just have to wait for the right time. I am not bery confident unless I am around the right people. Well all I can tell you is that you will know when the time is right.
2006-12-27 14:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by tech_whiz12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why some nice girls turn out to be weird. You probably look beautiful and normal, and guy have respect for you. Wait until you start getting louder like put different color like bright red in your hair or talking loud, then you would be knowable then. Trust me!!! You have plenty of times for boys to know you. Stay the way you are, be yourself, be happy and doing well in school. You would be popular before you know it.
2006-12-27 14:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing with me...
like im totally different outside of school than i am at school, and its annoying because everyone thinks im some quiet, no personality girl.
all i can say is be comfortable with yourself.
know that you are pretty, and outgoing, and great, and be comfortable at school, that way you can open up to others and they can learn what a great person you are to be with.
flirt a little with boys, and let them know that you are interested--show them ur personality and be playful.
good luck!
2006-12-27 14:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋