6 wks., before i graduated college, which i just did, i met this girl. we had an instant connection, like nothing i ever felt. i really started to feel like my feelings for her were other-worldly. she started to like me too but a guy, who was a close friend to her, asked her out. it makes sense for her to be with him over me- they know each other better, belong in each other's social worlds, and he can physically be with her (i live 500 miles away) so i told her that she should be with him and i'd just be her friend and not say anything. but she couldn't handle it bc she liked me, and said that she had to hold back around me. i started to date my ex again. so basically we both like each other in an innate way but know that we can't be together. still, i can't get over her and constantly worry i am hurting her. how do i figure out what to do?
2006-12-27 14:03:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't stop yourself from being with a person who makes you feel that way..and who feels that way about you just because of small details like distance...my great grandpa..who just turned 100 years old this year told me that a person is lucky to just find 1 person in their whole lifetime who truly loves them and whom they truly love back and that is sooo true!! Don't settle for 2nd best w/ your exgirlfriend when your heart is really with the new girl...it's not fair to either one of them...or to you! I know this sounds cliche...but be true to yourself and follow your heart!! If you don't, you will always wonder..."what if" and you'll regret it....trust me, show her how much you really care about her, go out on a limb. You two CAN be together and CAN figure out a way to make it work between you two....love can overcome ANYTHING...trust me I know from experience!!
2006-12-27 14:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
500 miles is not really that far, reasonably. What is that..like 3-4 hours. People have relationships between coasts. If it's really meant to be it doesn't make sense to be with other people just to be in a relationship with another person, leading them on while you hold a torch for another person. You're not a teenagers, you're both grown. Make a plan..spend the weekends together, make day trips..whatever. If you're feeling other-wordly about this chick she's worth it. A relationship doesn't mean you have to spend every waking moment together but that you have a quality, meaningful interaction.
2006-12-27 22:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really like her that much then you should go for it!
Love is worth making a fool out of yourself because nothing ventured...nothing gained! She sounds like a special person and instead of regretting the rest of your life about "what would've been or what if we had children" you will find yourself in a world of resentment living with a wife and possibly children as if they were consolation prizes. Call her! Tell her how you feel and go from there...PLEASE- because it will haunt you the rest of your life, I can tell by your post. GOOD LUCK, sweetie!
2006-12-27 22:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! when i read your post i felt like i was reading the post of the one and only guy i love...i understand that girl you like because i am in her situation. the guy i love is with someone else because he thinks things could never work because of the distance factor. every morning i wake up thinking what life would be like if i could only live closer to him...and i'm sure he thinks the same too. dont let this girl have these feelings...dont hurt the one you love. go for it and tell her how you feel...i would give anything for him to just do that to me...life is too short for regrets!
2006-12-27 23:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by councelor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a good case of wanting what you can't have. Live life and enjoy it, it is way too short to waste it on the "what ifs".
2006-12-27 22:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋